I Think It Might Be Time To Put My Mom In A Home!?

Question

She is 52. How can I get power of attorney and put her in a nursing home?

Well there isn't really anything "wrong" with her. She irritates me!

Cut The sh*t Dad, or your next!

Answer 1

yes, yes...i can totally relate. i had my mom put in a home when she was 42...she was a total pain. what i did was write up a bogus paper stating that she had access to my apartment when i wasn't home...HA...IT HAD A CARBON COPY ON TOP!! pure genius! what i really had her sign over to me was power of attorney and a declaration of incompetence!!! get moving girl...before you know it she will be 62 and wetting the bed!!! you are smart to do this now!!

Answer 2

I can definitely understand your situation but first you have let a court decide if she can take care of herself or not. If she isn't able too then you'll need to find an attorney who can assist you with becoming your mom's power of attorney. I suggest researching homes in your area to see which are good and how much they are going to charge becuase they are rather expensive. If you do put her in a home make sure you visit her a lot. When my Grandma was put in an assisted living/Alzehimers care place, the other people who lived there were jealous because me and my family visited her a lot where as most other families tend to forget about them and not visit unless it's a special occasion like a b-day, christmas, or thanksgiving.

Answer 3

Being irritating is not a reason to put your mother in a home. At 52, she is a long way from being "old." Unless she is medically proven to be mentally unstable and is in a position to do harm to herself or take care of herself and her affairs, you aren't going to get power of attorney.

Answer 4

You have to prove that she is not of sound mind and that she is incompetent or incapable of taking care of herself. Either that, or she had to have filled out power of attorney forms already giving you legal authority over her affairs.

However, if other members of your family (Father, Aunts Uncles, Older Siblings) say otherwise, you have a battle ahead of you. The normal order of things is that the spouse, then siblings then the eldest child takes responsibility for your parent.

Answer 5

try making it appear that she is "crazy". Drive her to the doctors and tell them about her misplacing things, having accidents, raoming aimlessly around the block. If of course she isnt doing these things, make it appear like she is. I have urinated im my moms bed for months before dad felt it was time for her to strap on depends and pack her bags to the home. Hehehe..as a CNA in a nursing home I know all the tricks. Mom really should have bought me a cabbage patch kid instead of filling her scripts when i was a kid.

Answer 6

Play mind games with her. Start with small things like put the toaster in the refrigerator, put her car keys in the bathroom cabinet. Then escalate from there with things like placing large orders in her name from Home Shopping Network on a daily basis. Hell, by the fourth or fifth Esteban guitar, she will be questioning her own lucidity.

Answer 7

First you have to work on being irritated by her , it could be you have this problem,from medicine or other thing.52 is young,she can get married,

Answer 8

Is she sick and infirm? Are you a long distance from her residence? Is she irrational and spending "your money-to-inherit"? What is the problem? 52 yrs of age is pretty young to be thinking of putting her in a nursing home! Good homes are a blessing for those infirm, sick and unable to care for themsevles. My mother was 90 before she could not live alone and I found a really nice assisted living place for her. She checked herself out after 3 months when they had gotten her back on her feet, healthwise. I had to find another place for her to live. Her mind was a little "off-balance", but she thought she was doing fine! She was convinced that she was getting millions of dollars from that Publisher's Sweepstake thing--they swindle millions from the old and infirm I firmly believe! She lived on her own and I have to admit that it was VERY DIFFICULT to stop her from bad decisions!!!! She lived until she was 98! The last five years were in a nursing home. It's a difficult time--and I'm afraid that my daughter will have to go through this period of trial-by-fire with me!! In spite of what I know, our minds have a mind of their own after a while!!! Be patient and loving--and try to set limits on her spending--it's VERY DIFFICULT--but one of Life's Developmental Stages that all adult kids have to go through! I'm 78 now--still driving well (passing my driver's test); no tickets; and LOVING being able to go over and see my little Grandchildren, my Daughter and Son-in-Law!! There will be a time, I know, when I'm going to have to give up my autonomy....but DEFINITELY NOT YET!! Be patient sp? and try to understand. Remember--Your time will come, as well! Do unto out parents as we would have done unto us! Bless You!!

Answer 9

52? You've got to be kidding me! You are ridiculous, I can't even believe your doing that to your mother. If its HER house you can't kick her out buddy! God when she is dead your going to be kicking yourself.
You selfish little immature ***!
I wouldn't even consider putting my mother in a home until she was in her 70's, could not do things for herself and I was extremely busy on my own! You sir, putting her in there at 52, well lets say trying because there is so way an attorney would do that, when she is fine is ridiculous and extremely selfish.

Answer 10

I don't think she's sick,but I do believe being a scum-bag can be considered being sick,so if I was you I'd see my Doctor you have a bad case of it,she raised you,loved you, was there for you, now you want to stick her in a home somewhere,well God has a special place for people like you,Thank-Goodness.!!!