Me and my dad used to be really close, but ever since a year ago when I started growing up and going out with guys, I feel like he really hates me. He always finds ways to make it sound like I was being a "smart-mouth." He's always grounding me. He's always yelling at me for really unreasonable stuff. But I swear to you, I know when I'm being a smartass, and I am never one to him. I only become smart with him when he's yelling at me so much and I try to defend myself. It's like he's pushing me to argue back. I secretly wish him and my mom would get a divorce, isn't that horrible? It's because he was sick and in the hospital once for about 3 days... and to be completely honest... those were the most peaceful and head-clearing 3 days of my life. Today while my mom was teaching sunday school, he was telling me chores to do, and I did them all. Then my mom came home, and he told my mom that HE did them. So then a little later, he gave me some more chores to do and I guess I didn't look
2007-12-02 07:13:31 · 5 answers · asked by lia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thrilled to do them, so he got REALLY mad! "WHY DON'T YOU EVER WANT TO DO ANYTHING!?"
But I was still going to do them! I just wasn't jumping up and down to do my chores, you know? Especially after he just took credit for the ones I did this morning. He's a big asshole and I want to move out. I want this to stop. He's always on me about my grades and I go to a private school and I try SO HARD but everything I do just isn't good enough. no matter how good they are, he wants them to be better. It's really stressing me out, and most of them I just want to kill myself because of him. I really feel passionate hate for him.
I asked him if he wanted to watch a Christmas movie with me and my little brother today but he said he has to watch football. I brought that up to him while my mom was there, and I think he got embarassed so he started yelling at me about not looking like I want to do work. What can I do? Who can help me? Is there any way for me to get out of this life?
2007-12-02 07:16:33 · update #1
talk to him that youmiss th way he used to be
and tell him that just b/c you are hanging out wiht the boys doens't mean that you are gogni to doanything stupid
also doenstmean that you wont take time to hang out with him
2007-12-02 07:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is grieving your growing up--but not able to verbalize his sadness of loosing his "Little Girl". He sees your growing up and as a "rebuff" to him...I'm not sure how you can deal with this differently--other than try to deal with the "core" issure--that you are growing up, but you will always love him for teaching you the goodness in Life! And that you hope someday that you can bring him some grandchildren (IF this is something you want yourself) and thank him for such a good life he and your mother gave you.
Good Luck....I hope he can grow as much as you have!!!
2007-12-02 15:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Daddy misses his little girl and just can't handle the fact that she is turning into a young woman. I can just tell you that that is pretty hard for Daddy's to accept sometimes
2007-12-02 17:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be because he still feels sorta insecure with you going out with guys. Sit down with him and talk. Maybe he'll tell you what's on his mind. Hope this helps!
2007-12-02 15:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him about it. you are letting him have too much power over you. he's taking advantage of being your dad.
2007-12-02 15:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Jacob Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋