I am in love with my boyfriend it is almost 7 months in 8 days with him.
But, I like to party and have fun I won't cheat on him but he doesn't trust me how do I deal with this. He wants to go everywhere with me that involves other guys.
But yet he can kiss his two best friends who are girls on the lips goodbye.
2007-12-02 07:12:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you gotta go to root of The issue.
why Does he not trust you? Did u pull something on him in the past?
Is it b/c he's a player that dont wanna be played?
Does he have self esteem issue / think that you're too good (hot, rich, intelligent, ect.) for him?
2007-12-02 07:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by vicious_kixus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you and him have been together for 7 months, and you do love him, i would stop partying for him, or ask him too come with you, i respect that you can party and not cheat on him that's awesome.
Maybe in his past relationships someone has cheated on him, im going through the same thing right now, my boyfriend was cheated on 11 times of his girlfriend of 1 year, so he doesnt trust me.
I would tell him he cannot kiss them on the lips, that maybe on the check but not the lips
2007-12-02 07:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By partying and having fun, what do you mean? If you are like me, it means getting drunk and flirting and getting a lot of attention from guys. Sometimes things go a bit too far. If you aren't drinking and just like to be able to talk to both sexes, than he's overreacting. By the way, it isn't okay for him to kiss those girls on the lips! I wouldn't tolerate that. It sounds like you both are not ready for a commitment and are just too young. My guess is you are in high school, right? I know you think you love him but I think it's just one of your first real relationships, right? In the meantime, if you are partying by drinking and flirting, you got to stop. I developed a really bad reputation in school for that when I was younger.
2007-12-02 07:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem once with a guy.
It was like, where are you going?
When are you coming back?
Doing research at school with a team, and he didn't like that either.
I finally sat him down & said,
I'm committed to this relationship.
There are things in life I do that are involving other males.
These are professional things.
You need to understand this.
If you can't deal with this, this may be a relationship issue.
I also had issues because Everybody knew him on campus.
Girls were coming onto him too.
So, we came to an agreement.
It worked out.
But it was an adjustment we needed to make.
One adjustment your bf needs to make, if he is committed to you, is that these goodbye kisses to the gbfs move from the lips to the cheeks.
That indicates to you he is committed to you.
2007-12-02 07:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by ceviche queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy talk about a double standard.Both of you should break up so you can zillions of people of the opposite sex and whatever.
He is a hypocrite not trusting you when he strains YOUR trust by kissing other girls on the lips.I would have dumped him after the first time and not looked back.Tell him your going to go get drunk and high and have sex with other guys who are "just friends" so you dont have to break up or anything.Sure he will hit the roof.The thing is unless BOTH of you stop this behavior your relationship is going down the toilet anyway.He needs to QUIT kissing other girls and you need to quit partying.Ice cream and cake is one thing, drugs and alcohol will destroy your life.
2007-12-02 07:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is a good bye kiss, then it'll turn to good bye sex! Why do you girls put up with this type of Bull$hit?! He's probably the type of guy that likes to prove that he's free as a bird and could do what ever he wants, but when it comes to his girl, she must obey right down to the last word!
In other words, go and have fun, if he says he'll breakup with you, then be it, that'll just mean that he wasen't serious about you. Or are you the type of girl that's too scared of being let go?
Good luck!
2007-12-02 07:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny Lovegood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit of a double standard... You're going to have to talk to him about this trust thing thats obviously not happening. If he's able to do that, he should be able to trust you to hang out with other guys.
2007-12-02 07:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him tag along and if he gets jealous of one of your friends just tell him its the same kind of feelings that you have for them as he does his two female friends. if he still wont trust you then its time to see if hes worth having around and bringing you down.
2007-12-02 07:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really want to be with this guy you will tone it down a bit and go off and do things with him that HE likes too. Either that or stay single - then you can please your little old self!
2007-12-02 07:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you get tied down(in a good way) get the wild oats sowed first.cw
2007-12-02 07:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by cw_32218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋