Would women go out with a guy with no legs?

Question

Hello everyone

(Well first of all I should apologise because I've already asked this question before, so sorry if you've read it before. But it's a really big thing for me, and some of the things people said before really encouraged me (you'll appreciate that this is a very difficult thing for me), so it'd be cool to hear from some different folks who are online now, and as many as possible please! Anyway, sorry for droning on, anyway, here is my question, thanks)

Well like most guys I guess I'm kinda keen on getting a lass. I'm 26 and average-looking. But both of my legs were amputated at the hips last year (road accident), leaving me wheelchair-bound. I guess I'm just wondering if girls would consider going out with a guy in a wheelchair with no legs? I haven't tried with girls since my accident. Be honest!

Thanks

Alex

Answer 1

I would go out with you. It depends on the personality, of course.

-HeartBrokenForever (Diane N)

Answer 2

If I was single and looking for a date, I would. The physical body is only one aspect of a person.

My husband and I are friends with a couple who deal with this on a day to day basis. The husband is a veteran, and lost both of his legs due to a road mine overseas about ten years ago, he was in his twenties when it happened and ended up meeting his wife while he was learning to use his prosthetic legs.

He uses a wheelchair a great deal at home, as the legs work great, but can require a great deal of energy and are tiring for that reason.

They have three children and a wonderful life from what they have told us. They are definitely in love and their faces just about light up the room when they talk about each other...it's wonderful to see.

You sound like a great and level-headed guy and you should have no trouble finding a girlfriend. If a young woman is not interested in you because you are in a wheelchair, she is just not the woman for you.

With God, anything is possible and if you survived an accident that may well have taken your life, you have a purpose in this life. I hope you meet the woman of your dreams soon.

God bless you and have a wonderful holiday season and a Merry Christmas.

Answer 3

This is interesting, everyone is saying the most positive comments which I agree with, but I knew a guy at uni who was in a wheel chair, he was a mate on my course and he was an average looking guy and he never got any attention from women in the night club each time we went. So I can understand why you ask and it seems like people wouldn't.

My honest opinion and I hope people don't think bad of me for saying this is that yes of course you can get women to go out with you, but I think you would have a lot more chance with women who get to know you and like you first. I only say that from the experiences I saw of my friend from the past.

You seem a great guy, I wish you luck!

Answer 4

It depends on the person, if the person is shallow then she might not, but if the person is open minded the she might go out wit you also. No one can judge you bc you have no legs, If your a nice guy then a smart person will look over that. It depends of that person, but I still think you should try or maybe even online dating, so once you tell them an they're shallow at least you dont have to be face to face with them if they want to be so stererotypical. Try both ways chatting it up with girls in the real world an try online. There are some nice women out there.

Answer 5

Im going to be honest here. I would like to think that I am open-minded and caring enough to be able to love anyone, no matter what they look like. Its difficult at times not to make judgements, but i try not to all the same. Legs or no legs, you sound like a really nice guy and Im sure that if I were to meet you in a pub or something, that I would be able to sit down, talk to you, get to know you and if i liked your personality, be able to go on a date with you. I have grown up looking after my own disabled father, and know first hand that what makes a person who they are, isnt their outer shell, its whats inside and that love finds a way past any barrier if its strong enough. In answer to your Q, it wouldnt bother me, Im lookin for a real, kind and honest man, not a perfect ken doll.

Answer 6

To be honest with you Alex i would date a guy with no arms and legs.
It doesn't really matter if you have limbs or not it doesn't change the person who you are..
People have many opinons on going out with a person in a wheel chair but i think like would you pick on a person cause he had different colour skin, no so it the same really.
Ever body is the same wheel chair, black . white we are all the same.
If you are looking for the lady, if they cant see pass the wheel chair then there is no point being with that person. They are loads of people who would like to be with you, just choose wisely mate and good luck. merry christmas to you.

Answer 7

Why not?

My brother in law is an amputee - he's quite handsome, charming and great sense of humor. The ladies love him.

My daugher's best friend (18 yrs old) recently lost her leg above the knee in a terrible auto accident. She too was worried about being attractive to young men. I told her she had the best "creep" detector she could ask for. Any guy that would be put-off by her being an amputee is a creep - and she won't have to waster her time figuring that out.

Answer 8

Yes I would (if I wasn't already in a relationship). I have a friend with an able body who goes out with a double amputee after serving in Iraq and they are both very happy.

I do believe that you might have to get to know women better through less conventional ways of meeting (for example not in night clubs), but maybe meeting through society's, or groups.

If a woman is so superficial she wouldn't go out with someone with a disability then she wouldn't be worth it.

Good luck:)

Answer 9

I think if everyone is perfectly honest they will say that it would be a little weird at first ... but when they actually got to KNOW you ... they would be perfectly fine with it. You sound like a really sweet guy. I know this isn't the same at all ... but I have gone out with some really good looking guys who had a horrible personality and I didn't want to see them again. I also have gone out with some really well, unattractive guys who had hearts of gold!! If someone wants to be with you, it will be because of your personality and your heart ... not your legs. And, the ones who don't want to be with you because you have no legs, you don't need them anyway. Good luck to you!

Answer 10

first off i just want to say that this must be so hard for you and i'm sorry that this has happened to you. don't get discouraged, there ARE girls out there with substance who will see you for who you are and will be able to fall in love with you regardless of how many legs you have. you will have a hard time though because most girls wouldn't go for a guy without legs at first, but if you're a great person (it doesnt hurt that you're not ugly) there is probably someone out there for you. hopefully the perfect girl for you will come along. someone who will accept you for who you are. good luck ;)

Answer 11

When you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with that person and not what they have or have not got. Just because you are in a wheelchair doesn't mean you can not have a full and meaningful relationship with a girl. When you do meet someone and she respects you for who you are, then being in a wheelchair doesn't matter does it? You will know when you meet that special someone, someone who will love everything about you and of course have to help you with certain things because of your disability.
I hope you do find that special person . Good Luck in the near future...