My bf hasnt cheated onme yet ...but i think he has the potential to cheat...he flirts with girls and they flirt back...So my question is Do u think u can change a cheater????
2007-12-02 06:40:19 · 19 answers · asked by butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they want to change they will, but you cant make them. =)
2007-12-02 06:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot change a cheater, but a cheater might be able to change him/herself. In this case, I believe you need to tell your bf that you don't like it when he flirts with other girls. Be specific; give him examples in a non-acusing way. If you do this, you are communicating, and that is the right way towards a great relationship without cheating!
All the best!
2007-12-02 06:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kerosa S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well he's not a cheater until he cheats. And no one can change a cheater, but the cheater themselves. He is a flirt and the rules are the same. You can't change someone, and you shouldn't try. That will only lead to hurt feelings and arguments. Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable but don't demand him to stop. If he cares he will stop.
2007-12-02 06:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by NASCAR has reached all time low 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just like to flirt, I wouldn't label him a cheater unless he has cheated. I'm married and girls still flirt with me and my wife knows and doesn't care, cause she knows I'm all hers..
I don't think you can change a cheater.
2007-12-02 06:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by JeffK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER? ! but thats not true...... i have cheated ONE time on my ex but I learned from it. so dont think nothing like that cause i will never cheat again.... yes you can change a cheater by
1. If he really likes/loves you he wont do it
2. Knows you will leave him if he does
3. Talk to him about it
so he has to change for himself... if you're really the one for him... he will never cheat on you.. nor flirt with anyone.. ask him how he would feel if you was flirting all the time
2007-12-02 06:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know people always say once a cheater always a cheater..i used to believe that but not anymore. If your bf is truly into you and he feels your the one hes going to be faithful to you and try his hardest to change. Yes he may flirt but doesnt everyone...i mean you cant say that you never ever flirted once when i guy flirted with you...its harmless...id be worried if it was more like exchanging numbers then id be concerned...but as for now i think your ok
2007-12-02 06:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by italiancutie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change them, but they can change themselves, if their incentive to change is strong enough. But that has to come from them, not you. Be careful.
Often cheating indicates a character flaw, that they believe that they are entitled to more than the other person in the relationship. They may be weak, or selfish, or feel that they are entitled.
But even if he flirts, do you have a real reason to believe he cheats? Has he done so in the past, with other girlfriends (with you)?
2007-12-02 06:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Like they say, once a cheater, always a cheater. But I do believe one may be able to settle down if he found the right person. Or some just get better @ keeping his seperate lifestyle descrete. Although, sooner or later something will open up the can of worms.
2007-12-02 06:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by lovie808 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm well my answer would be no i think you can help them change but they have to want to change i cheated on my husband who was my bf when i cheated but we were both 18 i didnt think it was serious because we both messed around all the time b4 we knew eachother and we went out for a month when i cheated well i fell in love with him 3 months later and had to tell him and after the first time i never even tghought about cheating because i saw how much it hurt him when i told him and when we went out he always use to "eyeball girls" i told him how i felt about it and gradually he change because he knew it hurt my feelings and i didnt like it if you tell him how you feel and he doesnt change it for you he obviously doesnt love you as much as you think he does if he loves you he will change but again it takes time for change so if he doesnt change in one day its not a big deal give him time
2007-12-02 06:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by dee G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone flirts. You are thinking way ahead of yourself. Stop worrying when it didn't even happen.
I think cheater is always a cheater.
2007-12-02 06:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Alora 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all just because they flirt does not mean they will cheat. i flirt all the time and have never cheated. but back to your ?. NO once they do they will
2007-12-02 06:44:51 · answer #11 · answered by crissypeach 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋