They teach our youth that it's perfectly fine to have sex, AS LONG as you use a condom. It's okay to ..... AS LONG as....
No, I don't think it's okay. Look at our kids, they go to parties hook up with random people whose names they couldn't even tell you if you paid them 500 dollars. By the time they get old enough for marriage they have been "around" so much that they don't even want to make a commitment to one girl. And when they do, most of them end up cheating on their spouse (at least once). Hence, our 50% divorce rate in this country.
What happened to all the girls that enjoy watching movies, going to the beach, going hiking?
They are hard to find nowadays....sadly...
2007-12-02 06:03:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tryandfind: I don't have too much beef with the idea of premarital sex, but I do have a problem with people abusing it. If you have sex with one or two people before you get married, that is obviously not the ultimate thing, but it's understandable given today's society. However, most people abuse the idea of premarital sex, and you end up having teenagers have numerous partners. I was at a frat party last night, I dont understand how people were hooking up with each other all the time, and none of them know each others names. I just don't get it. And there's a frat party every week, so go figure how many times these people get around!
2007-12-02 06:24:51 · update #1
reading what Shoet Mie says explains perfectly why the divorce rate is 50%. It's all people like her...
2007-12-02 06:56:06 · update #2
I have no problem with pre-marital sex.
I mean, it's one of our natural urges, just like, uhm, eating and breathing!
But just because you *can* do it, doesn't mean you should live so wild-and-crazily, hooking up with random people.
And of course you should use a condom and birth control...anyone who says otherwise is sadly ignorant as to what STDs do, or what happens in a woman's body when the little sperm find their way inside.
I agree that people should have some restraint.
However, I wouldn't go so far as to say that just because you have sex before marriage, that you're going to later end up divorced.
I'm not some sex-hound - actually, my personal sex drive is rather on the low side - but I know plenty, *plenty* of people who have steady girlfriends and don't cheat.
Many people I know have no problem with a committed relationship, and I certainly don't either.
However, just because you long-term-date and have sex with that person, doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to marry them! Or have to.
And there are girls that like that kind of stuff - watching movies, hanging out, camping, etc.
My ex-girlfriend was one of these people...but that doesn't mean that sex is off the table...
2007-12-02 06:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by tryandfindus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its culture. Unfortunately for some, we arent living in the 1950s anymore. Im certainly not defending liberals in the least but sometimes you have to roll with the punches. Theres nothing we are going to be able to do now that the cat is so far out of the bag and has been for the last 50 years. The sixties destroyed this country morally. And now we live in an age that no matter what the media tells kids to do, theyre going to be having sex with eachother, drinking, smoking, doing drugs... the works. The only kids you have influence on are your own, so teach them right.
2007-12-02 06:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea! I've been thinking about that.... Don't worry I'm still a virgin and I'm a teenager.
It's mostly parents ( no offense to anyone ) I was taught never to be like that because bad things happen and I'm not planning to have sex for a long TIME. Usually the parents of the teenagers I know who have had sex were always at work and never had time for their kids.... And it's not only girls it's guys. It's mostly peer pressure but not much media. This is how it works with us. :
Media>Boys( feel they need to have sex )>Girls ( feel pressure to look good and do anything to get their so called dream guy ) > End up having sex > Guy leaves girl > Girl looks for someone else to please and it keeps going on.... and on....
2007-12-02 06:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps,
It is time for a change....Everyday someone is killed because they " cheated ". Perhaps it is time to change they way we think about relationships. We must stop trying to own people, or we may be doomed. In the past women were property, and could be bought and sold, saddly some places in the world this still happens. In the past we had many wives, and whores were everywhere. Commitment is wonderful and some need that but don't kill someome because they want someone else....or we may be doomed.....
Love is the key, hate is the end of love
2007-12-02 06:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by FREE4ALL8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that all the trends are unfortunate (although divorce rates have actually gone down in the last couple decades, not up) but I see no reason to blame this on the "liberal" media or any other media.
People need to take responsiblity for their own actions and decisions. NBC and ABC didn't make them do stupid things, their own ignorance, selfishness and laziness did.
2007-12-02 06:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know. I'm only fifteen but i agree that it's messed up. The whole media and everything tries to tell everyone that its ok as long as it feels nice, which basically leads everyone to thinking that its all about them, what they want, and thats it, there's nothing more. so it leads to people just using each other for their own gain and than when they're bored with each other, whether they're just dating or married with kids or whatever, when they're bored they just move on to the next person. There's no sacrifice anymore. yup its pretty screwed.
2007-12-02 06:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try parenting instead of letting the media (or anybody else) do it for you, that might help. Teach your kids whatever you want, and let others do the same. It's YOUR failure as a parent if your children obtain their morals and values from anybody else.
My fiance loves watching movies, going to the beach, and going hiking. Fortunately for me, she also loves sex.
2007-12-02 06:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
So you're blaming cheating and premarital sex, that has been going on for eons, on a liberal media that's only existed for the last 100 years or so?
2007-12-02 06:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simple answer: YOU let them. Stop listening to them. You can change things by doing the right thing. It starts with you and therefore you have no one to blame. Quit complaining about it and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. God can use us to help others, but only if you let Him. Don't like what you see? Do something and change it.
2007-12-02 06:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by cgi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, keep there paints on is the right thing to do.If everyone did that until marriage then they would actually start to love them unconditionally .There is allot more to talk about on this subject
2007-12-02 06:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by saveitok 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋