Im 20. Ive been dating a girl (also 20) for two months. A month ago she told me she wants a relationship eventually with me but she wants to move very slow. She said she gets scared of relationships and it is hard for her to open up becasue she has been hurt badly in the past. It seems like she has a wall of protection up that is very hardfor her to break down and trust me. A week ago she said she was ready for a relationship before we had a week off from college (we live in different states so we didnt see each other.) When we got back she said she was feeling pressured to say she was ready because of the break but wasnt and wants to take everything very slow. Does this mean she doesnt anything more serious with me or should I just hang in there and let her decide when she wants to get more serious??
2007-12-02 05:56:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I noticed that what you left out--would have helped me immensly in deciding how to answer this...
Why are you wanting a relationship with her?
What do you like about her?
Do you think you are in love with her?
How long have you known this person prior to dating her?
If after two months, a few dates, some letters and phone contacts you are not making a connection--you need to decide what you are getting out of this?
There is nothing wrong with deciding to be friends and see if anything more develops. Dating should have the end goal of getting to know someone--their values, goals, dreams and whether or not this person is someone you may want to marry and raise a family with. Dating should not be to see how far you go with the end goal of a sex relationship.
2007-12-02 06:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by steinbeck11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she wants something serious with you, but isn't ready to take the plunge. if you ARE ready for a relationship, but aren't willing to wait for her, move on. and if you do wait for her, don't let her keep holding off for an obscenely long time, she's already told you that she wants a relationship with you, and when she had time to think about it, she probably overthought it and started freaking out and felt pressured by herself, not you. but she can't stay on the fence forever. if she waits a few more months, i'd just move on, because it might take losing someone she likes to get her out of the funk.
2007-12-02 06:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already told you she wants to go slow. If you are willing to go slow for her, that is great. If not, move on. She may have more problems than just this and she may be using being hurt badly as an excuse.
2007-12-02 06:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST YOUR INNER GUID don't listen to others .Thats my motto for the day
2007-12-02 06:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by saveitok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋