Is her rebound relationship going to work if she keeps contacting me? I don't get it! She said she understood that I don't want to remain friends unless she wants our relationship to work. I'm not trying to be a jerk, but I'm also not going to stand on the sidelines while she dates other guys. We went out for nearly ten years. she did not believe in marriage. She emails me on average once a week? If she's happy with her rebound, why bother contacting me? And she obviously does not understand how hard it is for me to move on when she keeps doing this. As her "best friend" you think she'd understand this. She got really upset the other day when I said to stop emailing me unless she drops rebound guy and wants me back. I can't keep going through this back-and-forth with her, unless she realizes I'm what she wants, and that's not going to happen with me in the picture, weather she likes it or not! Do you think I've heard the last from her? She's really upset I gave her an ultimatum!
2007-12-02 05:21:07 · 22 answers · asked by sportguy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probally isnt over you yet.
2007-12-02 05:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Darren B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet that her rebound isn't working out. The grass always looks greener on the next hill, as they say. If you are smart, you'll just cut her off. Don't read her emails. Block her email address. Don't talk to her! If she calls her, tell her you're through and you are moving on, even if she can't. Then never answer her calls, either. Listen, I'm telling you: you'll be doing you AND her a favor. If it is over, it's time to let go and get on with your life. Your both being held back from being happy so long as she keeps dragging this out.
Good luck!
2007-12-02 05:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had to try to answer this....
I too contact my ex-(Wife actually) and it seems every time we end up having sex... then the next day she dont want anything but friendship... so i stop talkig for a while then something comes up again... i know we both have issues... but this sounded similar... she is unsure of her relationship and you dont push her away...no guy really wants to tell a girl to stop talking to them if they have any remote feeling for them.... so you are not going to tell her to bug off... unless you have lost feelings...
if you want to make it interesting start talking about a relationship you are in and how great it is and see how she likes the conversation... I had an ex that i did that with and they got a funny look like i should wait for them to get somethign out of their system,.... well go ahead and talk about the person you met last week and the date you had, how they were so nice and you hope it goes someplace....
good luck but keep in mind that having another in the bleachers is a safe situation for someone who may be vulnerable to the other person.... so your ex is putting herself out there for the other guy and could be concerned she will get spurned...but thats ok...cause you are the second fiddle and you are waiting patiently...
go out and meet another. or better yet... try going to a gym or getting involved in sometthing that you never have before... volunteer... or get another job.
2007-12-02 05:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by my_huckelberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your limits and your limit is you want her or nothing. It's sad that you guys went from 10 years to nothing. If you really want that and she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you then you probably won't hear from her in a while. Maybe with time, you both could rekindle some relationship with her. I know you are hurting, but maybe after you do this she will find her way back to you when she misses you. Who knows what the future may bring? I think personally, you should move on because it seems like you wanted a future and she didn't. You will find someone who will appreciate you.
2007-12-02 05:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you cannot be her "best firend", I think the relationship should be considered over and done with. She obviously don't know what she wants, and she is flip flopping around. Personally myself I would consider it water under the bridge and move on and if she still keeps it up, put her on an ignore list. And hopefully it does the trick, eventually she will get the message that you no longer want to be part of her life.
2007-12-02 05:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it ought to no longer be a entire believe difficulty as in you having something which incorporate your ex, yet rather slightly organic jealousy which you share specific conversations approximately wide-unfold issues with the ex, that your hubby could sense left out of, remember, even however you at the instant are no greater jointly, there is mostly a bond there which would be different than the bond you have which incorporate your husband and it ought to clearly concern him. perhaps you are going to be speaking which incorporate your husband approximately those issues and merely retaining in touch with the ex each and every six months or year to confirm whats new, no longer the unique conversations.
2016-09-30 10:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i understand what shes doing is selfish, she just wants to keep you there just in case things dont work out elsewhere... you should change your email or block her, i know its hard for you because you love her. just tell her that you decided to end it and cut ties. Move on with your life i know how hard it is to do so but be strong love will always find its way to your heart so just do your thing !!!! Goo Luck!!!
2007-12-02 05:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop one more time and if she doesn't then totally ignore her. If she keeps emailing you just delete the email without looking at it. If she doesn't want to be with you then forget her and find a new person.
2007-12-02 05:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this lady's a psycho, good thing she's your ex. you wouldn't want to deal with that woman for all your life, would you?..She doesn't even know what she wants, or who she wants..This marriage wasn't gonna last a day.She sounds more like a stalker to me. She doesn't have enough courage to call you, but she emails you...She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want another women to date you either.thats kind of selfish. and she doesn't realize her mistakes.this kind of girl is only dating material, not wife material. trust me, honey, you do NOT want her back.i know you probably still have feelings for her,I know it'll be hard to let go, but try to realize what shes doing to you!!
2007-12-02 05:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by MNM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, she wont get over it unless you dont speak! you have to tell her how you feel and tell her that you need some time where she does not contact you so you can both decide what you want from life! x
2007-12-02 05:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want her back, block her. Be rude and avoid her. Unless you do that you would be spoiling 3 lives. She will write similar mails to her current guy if you accept her. So, be cautious.
2007-12-02 05:25:45 · answer #11 · answered by Subhendu S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋