Is this Abuse ?

Question

okay so , i am in a situation at home , and i don't know if you would consider it abuse . my mom always puts me in situations that make me depressed . she constantly bugs me because i weigh almost as much as my sister who is 4 years older than me . my sister used to be on drugs and she was never even grounded . after i go to the doctor and get weighed she puts my results in a open space where friends and family can easily see them . when my mom is crying herself to sleep my father is screaming at my sister so i am the one who has to "comfort" her . my dad constantly calls me a "smart a**" and says that i am fat . my mom talks crap about me to family, friends , and co-workers . i cut myself with all of this which i know i should not do , but she tells me that she is going to kick me out and send me away . she has never physically beat me , but has caused me all of this harm inside . is this abuse ?

i am crying right now . my sister is downstairs drinking . i dont want to tell my mom . should i tell her ? she is high , so im guessing theres drugs . please help me . i want to just runaway , because this is hell .

but my mom is a really nice person at times also . oh my gosh . what do i do ?!

i also let anger out in softball and train secretly with a coach hours and hours a week . i have ranaway once but came back a day later my mother did not even know that i was gone . i run down local highways hours at times .

Answer 1

It is emotional abuse. Is there another adult outside of the home you are close to? You need to talk with someone. Your mom has a problem and she is taking out her frustrations on you. Get as involved as possible with activities outside of your home. It seems that being around this is causing you a lot of problems and that is easy to seey why.

Answer 2

I would say yes, I would consider that abuse. Abuse doesn't have to be directly physical, sometimes the other way around is worse.

I'm sorry for what's going on in your life; I think there may still be a way to reconcile with your mother, but I don't know what that may be.

First thing I would try to stop doing is cutting, it really doesn't do anything for you (but you already know that, of course). I suggest this alternative for relieving stress: excercise. Run until your legs burn like fire (and they do, it hurts like hell) but exercise also releases endorphins that make you feel good just like cutting; in this way you will be doing some good for your body, getting in shape, and you will be able to relieve stress in the same way, through pain. Just never exercise so much as to tear muscles, because those are harder to fix than a cut.

If this doesn't work for you, hold an icecube to your skin; it's not as harmful, but it does hurt after a little bit.

The best answer would be to stop all harmful activities altogether, but if you absolutely can't, then the above two should do something for you.

Hope it works out alright.

Answer 3

To me psychological abuse is worse than actual abuse.With actual abuse yours harm's are healed in a quick quantity of time,yet regrettably with psychological abuse your harm's can some years to heal.

Answer 4

Ok Yes it is Abuse, Mental abuse Try and get to see a counsiler for the Cutting try talking with them or leave a note or if you cant call your Child Seirves try talking to a friend as well.

Answer 5

Feel confident in the fact that you recognize your mother and fathers inability to parent properly. This alone should make you realize that you are learning and understanding things that at their age they still cannot control or understand. Look at your mother's actions and think about why she dose what she dose, is it her fault or dose she not know any better? There is nothing wrong with your parents doing the wrong thing or acting inappropriately, what matters is if you are intelligent enough to notice and understand why, then react appropriately.

Answer 6

Yes, you are being abused. This is a very unpleasant home living situation.

Talk to your school counsellor. You need advice and help. This abuse has driven you to cut. And this is dangerous and very sad.

Go talk to your counsellor. She'll/he will know what to do next. You will be able to stop worrying.

Answer 7

Yes. It certainly sounds like abuse to me. Emotional abuse. Seek some intervention to get help. Talk to a teacher or other trusted adult. You do not need to put up with any kind of abuse, including that which is emotional.

Answer 8

It sounds like you are using self-mutulation as a means to cope. Have you tried talking to your mom? If that doesn't help you should seek help elsewhere like another family member. Good Luck. Yes, what they are doing is abuse.

Answer 9

Emotional abuse.

Answer 10

Yes, I think this can be termed emotional abuse. Contact your local children's services, you need help as you are cutting yourself and your family needs help as well.