He needs help. He is self destructing and I want to help him. When we got engaged he was doing great - really cut down on weed and drinking. Then, he rented a house next door to a family he knows. They are heavy drinkers and potheads. Now, he spends every free waking moment next door and is ignoring HIS house and won't spend any time with me because 'I am no fun' to be with because I don't drink or smoke weed. Even the other neighbors noticed that he is never home! He is going down hill and I can't stand watching him self destruct. Should I call the police anonymously? What would happen if I did call the police? anything or just a fine? Can I legally put him in rehab against his will? (we aren't married - just engaged.) If I can't help him, I am ending this relationship because it's not what I want in life. It's just sad that he is going down this path and ignoring me (the person he said he 'loved').
2007-12-02 04:17:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
The only logical advice, is to make him your ex-fiance.
You cannot legally force him into rehab. Its clear he's made a decision to cut you out of his life. Piss on him.
2007-12-02 04:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by California Street Cop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about weed so much as the cigarettes and alcohol. And if you called the police they'd probably end up with a drug raid on your house for the weed. And no you cant put anyone I dont think in rehab against their will they have to want to be there and get better. I would try doing an intervention also.
2016-04-07 03:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him change. But you can get rid of the neighbors.
I don't know if this would work, but it's worth a try. Take him out for dinner some day. Choose his favorite restaurant (if he's stoned, he won't be opposed). While you're gone, notify the police that your neighbors are smoking pot all the time and becoming a bother to you. Keep your husband out of there though.. sometimes cops take their time.
Otherwise, you need to tell him how it is. You're not going to put up with that. And he has to choose between you and pot. Hopefully he's not a moron, but really, it's all for the best.
2007-12-02 04:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Trixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on which state you are in. In Ga, you could have two or more family members go before the magistrate judge and the judge can issue a court order for his rehabilitation. You could also call the police and leave a tip for the Narcotics Enforcement Team, but then you will have some pissed off neighbors and he will probably end up in jail. But, once again it depends where you live. In my county we can release you on a ticket for possession less than ounce.
2007-12-02 09:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by scarver1206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if he is not willing to stay in rehab, he can walk out at any time without restraints.
Your best bet is to consult with a mental health professional that does "interventions". They are exactly what you see on TV: A meeting between loved ones and the addicted person, and a professional, in a last effort to get him to participate in rehab.
2007-12-02 04:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by TURANDOT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't legally put him in a rehab. He has to make a choice to quit, or end up going to jail.
2007-12-02 05:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not have the authority to put him in rehab,.....but if the police got involved, the courts would have the power to do so,.....but it would be all over with you and him,.....i am sure he would never forgive you if you called the police,.....
2007-12-02 04:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the legal position, however the psychological is that he is very unlikely to stop if he does not want to.
2007-12-02 04:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by Freethinking Liberal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is who you pick in men?
Years later (because of her own choices), she'll be talking about how scummy (all)men are. A result of her own bad choices in life.
2007-12-02 07:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully it wouldn't matter if you locked him up and tied him down....it will do NO good unless HE is ready to put it behind him...you need to think is this how you want to spend your life....because you can not change him no matter how much you love him...best of luck...
2007-12-02 07:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋