okay to do? She was watching my two daughters for several hours and when I came to pick them up her son was wearing the pretty dress my 5 year old daughter had arrived in. Apparently he kept flipping up her dress and laughing at the really silky panties she was wearing. I had packed a pants outfit for my daughter and extra undies so that is what she was now wearing. Anyway my poor cousin looked adorable in the dress and my daughters loved the fact that he was also wearing the girly panties. My sister in law thought that the punishmnet fit the crime but I still wonder what her hysband would have thought?
What do you think?
2007-12-02 03:35:19 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
it sounds like a one time punishment. If she does it for everything he does wrong I wouldn't think it's ok. but in this case it's funny and fits the crime.
2007-12-02 03:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. That sounds a little extreme, but not overly harmful if it doesn't happen all of the time....or ever again, for that matter. In today's society, he could get into a lot of trouble for flipping up a girl's dress. I've heard of a 6 year old getting sued for sexual harassment for trying to look up a girl's dress, so teaching the boy the right and wrong of it now might not be a bad idea. If she tried other punishments first and they didn't work, then the dress thing is maybe ok....just this once. I wouldn't advise it for future punishments though.
The husband was probably horrified thinking of how the boy must have felt, but only he can say for sure.
2007-12-02 03:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Top Alpha Wolf 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What a nightmare! I would not subject your daughter to that again. Try a girl from church. That way your daughter can stay HOME, she will be familiar with ALL the surroundings (minus the sitter) and over all should be more comfortable. If your SIL doesn't even feed your child right & her 7 year old is mean to your baby? Why in Gods name would you even consider taking her back? *I'm a nanny and I take care of children as if they are my own. But I have taken care of children where the parents didn't give a hoot about them. The children were never bathed and or changed. Barely fed with junk. DIRTY houses, rotten food all over, yeah I have had my fair share of S-H-I-T-T-Y parents. Good Luck.
2016-04-07 03:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a horrible thing to do. Would she have tried to humiliate your daughter if the situation was reversed? No. There's been a trend in putting down boys. I once read an article where some female teachers were joyful of making boys wear dresses in a "opposite day".
And as someone mentioned before, humiliation is not a good method of behaviour modificaiton.
2007-12-02 11:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Luken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have news for you...... embarrassment used as punishment for a child that age is considered to be detrimental to the child's well being with the Department of Family and Children Services. Your sister needs to take some parenting classes if she felt that a punishment like that even necessary much less effective. That child will end up with some real issues if that's the sort of parental skills she has. Suggest time out, the sad carpet, removing him from the situation, explaining that his behavior was inappropriate. There are way too many types of discipline out there that are effective, without her choosing to humiliate her child in such a manner.
2007-12-02 04:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What was done to the child was humiliating. Does she also stuff him with food if he makes a mess at the table? The corrective action to be taken for flipping his cousin's dress should have consisted of the same action that would be taken for any other minor disobedience. Her actions also firmly embedded in all the children's minds an incident that would probably have been soon forgotten. She involved your child in the punishment which was even worse.
2007-12-02 03:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by OE 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, I would say that, no, it isn't okay, "okay" in this context meaning "a good thing". Legal, sure, but not good, the main reason being that it will serve to skew the kid's perceptions.
Second... your sister-in-law dressed her son in your daughter's clothes? After removing her clothing? And without being washed?
Is the boy your cousin, or cousin-in-law? I wouldn't find that sort of action acceptable in either case, but especially if he is the latter.
2007-12-02 03:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a transvestite is a transvestite from birth so if this boy is then he will object to wearing a dress but secretly he will look back on the situation with pleasure. If he is not then it will be a salutary lesson for him and he probably wont repeat the offence.
I wish my mother had put me in a dress when I was 5
2007-12-02 09:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to show how inapprapriate his behaviour was. I think that it is a little funny. I'm sure he wont flip up another girls skirt now that he has the experience of wearing one. Is you sister in law otherwise abusive? If not....I wouldn't worry about that isolated incident.
2007-12-02 03:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to judge other parents. She wasn't physically harming the child so what's the big deal. She was using embarassment as a punishment - if he was embarassed that's a good thing. Embarassment teaches to have shame and respect for yourself and others.
Why does your 5 yr old have SILK PANTIES??? Should I judge you for that?
2007-12-02 03:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Very funny. It happened to my dad as well. He wouldn't stop going outside, so his mom forced him that he will have to put on a dress for the rest of the day.
But it sounds extreme that she would put underwear on the boy
2007-12-02 04:08:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋