how can i convince my mum that i'm not dieting?

Question

my mum doesn't believe me that i'm not dieting even though i have come right out and told her to her face that i'm not dieting. she keeps getting lots of sweets, chocolate and crisps for me and when i dont eat them she says that i'm dieting. im feed up with having to false feed myself just so she believes me. she keeps coming out with really hurtful things like why do people even bother to diet when they are skinny because all it will do is kill them so they loss out on watching their family grow up. what can i do to prove to her that i'm not dieting without hurting her?

my mum is a very healthy eater and is only buying me chocolate because she wants me to put weight on and because i do eat the stuff but not every day.

Answer 1

It's difficult to convince some people of anything. First, do you have a medical condition? One your mum doesn't know about? I wondered is ll. If you do, you may have to 'fess up. If not, get your doctor to talk to your mum about healthy lifestyles, especially eating. Ok. If you don't want to do that, collect information on nutrition, you can probably get some free stuff from the dietition at your local hospital. Leave it lying around where your mum can see it. Stop denying that you're dieting, instead, tell your mum that her concern about your eating habits got you interested in checking out what a good diet to maintain your health would be. You can then explain that moderation in all your food intake seems to be the best way to go. Join her for meals if you don't now. Let her know more about your likes and dislikes, as far as food goes. Don't be overly critical of what she eats or serves, instead, let her know how much you like or dislike it. Over the years, our tastes change, so let her know. Personally, I love dark chocolate, so I treat myself to a piece every 2 or 3 weeks. I used to love potatoes, but now they really don't appeal to me--I think it was the advent of instants that did it, or maybe French Fries. One more thing, don't forcefeed yourself. Take a small bite to show you're willing to eat it, but tell her you're not really hungry, you're just doing it to please her because you love her, and don't want her to worry.

Answer 2

Congratulations on your good common sense. It sounds like you have more going for you than your mother has. Ask her if she is trying to "fatten you up" and tell her that's reserved for pigs. Too much sugar can lead to diabetes so don't eat the junk she is trying to feed you.

I don't understand why you have to eat that crap just to convince your mother you're not dieting. Don't do that anymore. Tell her in simple language that you DO NOT LIKE sweets and that you are not going to eat them no matter how much she buys. Say to her that you are telling her one final time that you are not dieting and it hurts when she says those mean things to you. Tell her that just because a person is skinny, it doesn't mean they are unhealthy nor will they die from it. After that, refuse to discuss it with her ever again. I don't intend to sound mean but is your mother fat? Lots of fat mothers try to make their kids fat so they won't feel so bad about the way they look.

Answer 3

For one, sweets and crisps are not healthy for your body.
Not dieting has NOTHING to do with wanting to keep your body healthy.
Keep eating all the healthy stuff around you, and ask her to stock up more on all that good stuff instead of unhealthy junk - than you can prove to her that you are not dieting!
Good luck with your mom.

Answer 4

You reassure her. And you tell her about the healthy things you do eat, and you show her that you eat, like have meals together. Sounds like she is a worrier, so you reassure her kindly and keep repeating this.

As a mom of girls, I know it is hard not to worry about eating, dieting and girls - it is such a difficult thing to balance out. That must be tough for you when she brings home all that junky stuff though. Ask her to bring you apples and broccoli maybe?

Answer 5

well this is pretty dificult seign that parents often thing they know best bot their children, but the most mature way of dealing with this situation is to b honest with ur mum tell her that if hurts hearing all the stuff she says and tell her from ur bottom of ur heart that ur not dieting. if that doesnt work just eat infront of ur mum to prove that u do eat. u cud also make a list of wat u eat everyday, if u wanna goto extremes even take digital photo's. But at the end of the day u just have to make clear that ur not a baby anymore and no how to deal with ur body urself.

Answer 6

you're skinny. the clarification you have long previous up in outfits length is given which you're turning out to be. that's what childrens do. i could advise asking your mom for help coping with your self self belief problems. A length 4/5 is tiny.

Answer 7

It sounds like your mum is concerned about you - that's what mums do.
Although I am concerned she is trying to give you junk food, explain that you don't need chocolate, sweets or crisps, but that you are quite happy to sit down at a dinner table and have proper food with her.

Answer 8

You can say your paying attention to the news. All they talk about is the FAT people of the USA! Tell her you have just educated yourself on what and what not should be eaten in large amounts.

IS your mom obese by chance? If she is, she then must have a sickness in her own head that wants you to blimp out too.

just tell her like it is.

Answer 9

Be nice to her, she sounds very insecure, and wants you with her. If you're not dieting, and eating healthily and exercising, it will be very obvious to everyone, even her.
Sweets and bikkies etc. is not healthy.
You could try making meals and eating with her.
Good Luck

Answer 10

Why don't you get a medical opinion. If you're that skinny, you probably just have a naturally high body metabolism. Do talk to your Doctor about it, and see if he can test you to confirm it. Mom can't argue with the evidence, can she?