I love him alot but he just got a short temper. I dont know what to do...
2007-12-02 02:07:56 · 22 answers · asked by Haix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are sensitive and he is not. Some women can handle someone yelling at them because they can yell right back. But if your feelings are getting hurt all the time, you should probably get out of the relationship. Believe me, there are sweet guys out there who don't yell, and would feel terrible if they made a girl cry.
2007-12-02 02:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Suze N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk about it when you are both calm. Talk objectively, like you are trying to solve any other problem. Tell him how much you love him (hopefully he feels the same) and that it hurts you when he yells. Try to come up with some ideas on how not to get to the point of yelling and crying. A few people I know did this and now they have systems...one couple automatically takes a 10 minute break when they start getting heated, then they are calmer and talk it out. The important thing it to not ignore the problem an to talk about it with him. It will make your relationship stronger if you can overcome it. On the otherhand, if he wont work with you and the yelling and crying continues then you need to think about what you want out of a relationship...because you deserve better. Also look at the trend of the arguments in your relationship. Has he escalated from nothing, to strong words, to yelling? Has he ever slammed his hand on a wall or counter? If his temper has shown escalation, dont think it will stop with words; consider getting out. Good luck.
2007-12-02 10:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by alliecat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are crying, because you are being abused. Why are you with someone that is abusing you? I don't care how much you love someone, if that person can't treat you with respect, then you should not be around that person. His short temper is only yelling at you for right now, but next it will be a shove, push, slap, hit, beat. I know I lived that life. I finally loved myself to get out. I meet a man that did every thing he could for me, and was treated very nicely. Not that we didn't argue, but he still treated me with respect.
2007-12-02 10:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been the guy that eventually gets upset. It wasn't because I had a short fuse but my gf would not talk to me about things or problems we had when they would arise. The decision I had to make was to leave. She didn't want it but it had to happen.
I'm sure you don't want to keep going like this but you need to realize that is it not right to always feel that your partner is going to yell at your for almost anything you do. Not sure of your age but if you are younger then you may still be figuring yourself out and not really know what you want.
But at the very least you need a good long break away from this guy and make him earn the right to date you. Maybe you do need to figure things out. And communicate this to him and let him know what the situation is. Then follow through. You can't just keep telling each other that you love one another. You can love each other but not be right for each other.
2007-12-02 10:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG. Don't listen to that creep. Please. Pulling the trigger doesn't solve anything.
I live with a whole family who has a short temper and I try my hardest to just avoid situations that cause them to get agrevated. I even have to date this guy in secret.
When my parents argue or start fussing at siblings I just walk out of the house and go for a walk.
I know it doesn't help, but i'm 15 and i used to pretend to run away.
But please. Don't pull the trigger. Don't even touch a trigger
2007-12-02 10:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki Q 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abusers never change, try to move on because it usually escalates, no matter how much you pray and hope he will not wake up one day being the kind sensitive person you want him to be, he is simply who he is and you deserve better, life is so short perhaps we should try to surrown ourselves ONLY with things that provide happiness and comfort.
2007-12-02 10:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by pura_rosa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kick him and his short temper to the curb. No one should have to put up with that.
2007-12-02 10:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has a short temper, your love will die soon, so do not try to save this relationship.
He and maybe you, need to grow up more.
2007-12-02 10:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you probably cry cuz he is mean and you are probably menstrual or something but if he is short tempered that is a very good reason to cry, especially if you are stressed
2007-12-02 10:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by La ilaha il Allah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should start looking for someone else? I sure wouldn't want to spend a lifetime with someone who kept making me cry.
2007-12-02 10:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋