My question isn't "What should I do about my boyfriend?", it's more along the lines of "Why do guys stay on dating sites if they're not approaching anyone on there?"
My bf and I have a great relationship. We met on Match.com in June of 2006 and clicked instantly. The only weird issue is that he never deactivated his profile on Match. I get on there almost every day just to see if he's logged in recently, and it's generally "Active within 24 hours" or "Active within 3 days". I know he does not have a subscription, so he can't be contacting anyone, nor does he spend any time away from home without me, so the cheating isn't there...
I'm just curious... is this a fascination with guys just to see if something better does exist than the girl they're with? Or in a twisted way - could he just be confirming to himself that what he has is better than what is out there?
I know he shouldn't be on there to begin with, so no chastising... I just wanted some insight into the "why" of it all.
2007-12-02 01:20:45 · 9 answers · asked by isaiahallyson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I am NOT on there with an active profile. Mine came down when we agreed we were in a committed relationship... I just do a search for his username, and it shows me his profile.
2007-12-02 01:28:10 · update #1
And how do I bring it up if I were to ask him about it? It will look like I am always checking up on him if I ask... (Technically, I am, I know...)
2007-12-02 01:34:12 · update #2
If he's still trolling after a year and a half, I'd say he's probably just checking his options. Men and women both are always looking to trade up, as crass as that sounds, until they don't feel like they need to any more. Do you guys have a lot in common? Can you talk to each other? Ask him! Clicking is one thing, but you gotta find someone you can talk to. I agree, ,this is very disrespectful.
2007-12-02 01:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should definetely confront him with this information. He may deny it or say it was just for a joke or whatever, but he is earnestly looking around for another woman and probably isn't into honesty. That is hard to swallow, but you must accept this information. You do have a baby on the way and this child needs a good, stable home. Your boyfriend needs to know that he needs to settle down with you and make a decision and not play around or you are going to raise this child without him. Then do it. Whatever you do, make sure that he takes full responsibility for your child and pays child support. There are agencies such as child support enforcement that is no cost to you and will force him to pay to your child what he owes them. There are also multiple agencies that can help you get established with childcare at a reduced rate and help with living costs/schooling. So, don't worry about having to go this completely alone. There is also aid for dependent children which will help your child in the meantime. Start talking to the boyfriend and making calls. Best of luck to you.
2016-05-27 05:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for somebody else , maybe checking to see who is new , there is no reason he should be on there if you are dating and whats the big deal of him deleting his profile he could make a new one in 5 minutes if you two were to break up...Wake up and smell the coffee.......
2007-12-02 01:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I asked my hubby (we met online as well) and he said that the only reason a guy would do that is to see what else is out there!
If he finds a profile that he thinks is his "dream girl" he will be tempted to cheat...
Have you confronted him about this? I think it is extremely disrespectful to your relationship with him that he would keep looking for girls!
If it were me, I would set boundaries and stick by them!
2007-12-02 01:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shana B 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You said it your self. its so they know they have options and that there are other ppl who find them interesting and attractive. Hes fueling his own ego with the girls on there.
2007-12-02 01:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hes still hunting, your just filler.
2007-12-02 01:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Muker 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
kick him to the curb
2007-12-02 01:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
probably checking up on you, you dozy mare!
2007-12-02 01:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by who me? 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you both seem to be shy.
2007-12-02 01:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋