Whenever my childs father and I have a disagreement even just a small one where I am hardly upset... he has a hard time controlling his self telling me that if I knew some of the things that were going through his head I would want to get away from him and telling me that he wants to kill me..he has told his brother that there have been times where he has to leave and get away from home because he was afraid of what he might do to me..... he has never really hit me ... but he has gotten physical ... pushing and such... but any other time he and I's relationship is wonderful ...just perfect... but I feel like even if I have a little disagreement I fear to even talk to him ... Do you think that this is a serious problem? what do I do? I don't want to leave him... but if he could be a threat to me or our daughter in the future I don't want to put us in harms way either?
2007-12-02 01:00:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
GET AWAY, NOW, BEFORE YOU END UP IN THE HOSPITAL OR DEAD!!!
The very fact that you are asking this question means that you know there is something seriously wrong with your relationship!
Trust your instincts!
And, if you don't want your child to end up like the father, take the child with you!
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2007-12-02 01:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its a good thing he knows he has a problem, now its a matter of facing it. My father is a wonderful person but he has a chemical imbalance where something so small such as spilling water - he would flip out. that was many years ago, since then my parents divorced because of it and thats when my dad said hey this is a problem and he faced it- went to his doctor when they discovered there is something wrong with him and put him on medication to correct it-hes not crazy just imbalanced. To this day he cries for what he used to do and went through and said he wish he would have faced it earlier-would have saved alot of pain. now he won't go a day without it. Its definately a problem-I would seek counseling to determine what it is that causes those thoughts and go from there. and face him with it not that your scared for your life but also help him too, it probably hurts him that he thinks those thoughts. I hope this helps. If you care for him you need to help him help himself, thats no way to live.
2007-12-02 09:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by ..idunno.. 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do not need to leave him. It seems like he has some abusive tendecies though, but those tendecies are not his fault it could be something more than that like maybe a mental disorder. Atleast he knows he has a problem because now he ca fix it if he is willing to. I suggest seeing a phyciatrist or a doctor who could suscribe something. If you don't think its a mental disorder then I suggest that he take anger management classes to help him manage his anger better.
2007-12-02 09:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For his own comfort and welfare, he needs a psych eval. Talk to the family doc.
2007-12-02 09:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by buttfor2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋