this happened because i said something really hurtful to him during an argument (my mistake)
i cant help thinking it's wrong to tell your girlfriend they "deserved a smack" for saying the wrong thing.
what do you think?
2007-12-02 00:30:04 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course it's wrong. Dump him before he actually hits you.
2007-12-02 00:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
no woman should deserve a smack from their partner no matter how heated the argument got. I understand that you may have said something hurtful and indeed he reacted in a way most guys wouldnt, by pouring a drink over your head. Talk to him and apologies for what you said and he too will probably apologies for carrying out his actions. Things can always be worked out but If he ever hits you, walk away!!!!
2007-12-02 01:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by diamondbrunette26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is absolutely wrong to have poured a drink over your head and to have stated that most guys would have punched you.
Most guys would have walked away.
However, I do know that women can abuse men with their words and behaviour in such a way that it feels like a punch!
If he has never demonstrated violence before, then I think you two should sit down and talk to learn how to not 'hit' each other.
No one deserves a smack, especially not a woman, however in many situations a man would not speak to a man in the way a woman would, and if he did, it would be fighting talk, so you both need to learn something here.
2007-12-02 00:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right.
You were wrong. You shouldn't have said something that you knew was going to push his button. You need to know why you would intentionally hurt his feelings.
He was wrong. Maybe you deserved it, but that is still no reason to act on an impulse. If his temper gets out of control occasionally and occasionally you say dumb sht. Maybe you guys shouldn't be together.
Only you can answer that. You have to be honest. I hope that you apologized and I hope that he accepted and you can both move on from this point. You cant have a relationship when you are both pissed at each other.
2007-12-02 00:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by ARM 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most men would never even consider punching a woman. Not ever. In any context.
I agree with some of the other answerers here - the fact that he expressed his anger physically (and pouring a drink over someone IS an assault- can you imagine what would happen if he did that to a stranger in a bar, for example?) is worrying.
2007-12-02 00:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Pinky S 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter what you SAY during an argument pouring a drink over somebodies head ESPECAILLY YOUR GIRLFRIEND is never right. he could have just told you it was hurtfull done anything else but pour a drink over your head thats a no no. you need to leave him alone or talk about that because that's def not right. you are your own person no one has the right to do something like that to you boyfriend or not. you were just talking you didnt get physical why should he? he might as well have smacked you thats so disrespectful dont stand for the babygirl
2007-12-02 00:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by itswhatumakeit 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Leave this loser now.
Consider yourself lucky..no woman deserves to be treated like that, and this is coming from a gentleman.
Get out now...before he starts torturing kittens and puppies, because you'll be next.
If you take him back after this incident, you are placing yourself in a subserviant role...it will never be an equal partnership.
Teach him a lesson he'll never forget...leave.
If you said something very mean and hurtful to him, here's what a gentleman would do...approximate the cost of the meal for both of you, plus tip and cab fare, and explain why he's leaving, and leave this money with you and say goodbye.
2007-12-02 01:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Stan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Saying something hurtful is a mistake and may requires apology, but pouring drink over your head and saying that you deserve a smack is an even bigger mistake. Apologize to each other, then take it from there.
2007-12-03 09:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely wrong for him to say that, what wold of happened if he never had a drink in his hand? Would he of smacked you one? Is that how he solves his arguments? A real man would not even think about hitting a woman.
Talk to him and tell him how he made you feel, and that he should not of said that.
2007-12-02 00:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would take the opportunity to dump him, what kind of man thinks it is OK to hit a woman?
A real man would have ended the argument with a better line than that!
Even if you said the worst thing ever to him, punching is not the way.
2007-12-02 00:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by H1976 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, you both are in the wrong here. It is wrong to threaten physical violence in a relationship and it is wrong to react immaturely by pouring a drink over your head. However, it is also wrong to say hurtful things in retaliation. Because you are hurting him, and he probably feels he must hurt you in retaliation.
You and your boyfriend need to work on fighting without the name calling and the threats of violence. In both cases, there was a bit of over-reaction going on, and the best solution would be to try to talk over your problems and reach a compromise.
2007-12-02 00:38:20 · answer #11 · answered by "Speedy" 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋