bring a gift, would you comply?
*reason - the bride and groom each have plenty and will have to get rid of much when they combine their living quarters.
2007-12-02 00:26:31 · 31 answers · asked by moontrikle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If it's their wish entirely then yes, to comply with their needs and to make their day as happy as possible for them yes.
2007-12-02 00:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Chris K 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't comply. I would still bring a gift, even if it was a bottle of wine or a picture frame or something. I don't attend things like that emptyhanded.
If the couple doesn't want any gifts--truly doesn't--why would they agree to a shower? They could have an engagement party to introduce their mate to the rest of the family, etc before the wedding, but a shower is unnecessary if no gifts are wanted.
2007-12-02 08:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi. The person hosting this should NOT call it a shower. The reason to host a shower is to "shower" the couple. If this is simple a get together prior to the wedding, the host should simply call it an engagement party, or something other than a shower. But to answer your question, yes, I would comply, but I would bring a bottle of wine.
2007-12-02 11:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would comply, but I would bring a card. We are asking for no gifts for our party and we want that request to be honored. No gifts, means no gifts, none, nada, nil, its not a coy way of saying "No gifts" but secretly hoping people will not comply, at least in our case its not. And honestly, if you bring a gift you really run the risk of making the reciever, who has requested nothing, and also the guests who complied with the request very uncomfortable.
2007-12-02 10:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would go to the wedding shower and I wouldn't feel comphortable not going without a gift. It's customary to bring a gift and I would feel really strange not doing it.
The bride and groom shouldn't be throwing their own bridal shower. It's tacky for them to be doing this. This should be coming from the organizers. The point of a wedding shower is to shower the couple with gifts. If they are not doing that here then......what's the point.
Unless this is their way of saying......we have too much give us gift cards because we don't want you picking out our stuff for us. Or it's as simple as come and meet my partner before the wedding.
I don't get this ....bridal shower no gift thing. Secondly the idea of saying don't give us a gift is the expectation that they will be getting gifts. Gifts are not obligations. If you want to bring a gift for them do so.
2007-12-02 08:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by Violet 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Of course you would honor their wishes. Maybe, for a wedding gift you could get them a gift card to their favorite restaurant. Nobody ever has too much food, so this would show you care enough to remember them, but honoring their no gift request.
If this is too much for your wallet, just a gift card and a lovely card from the neighborhood market. We have a Trader Joe's here in California and I give this gift card each year to friends of mine who can buy whatever they want all year. They LOVE this card, as it is a fun place to find a variety of food.
Have a fun time at the shower and at the wedding. Love rules!..
2007-12-02 08:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to honor that because even if you have enough stuff people want to show their support as well as that they appreciate being invited to your wedding. My fiance and I have plenty and he's been living in the house we're going to share for three years now so obviously there's enough in it to function. We still needed a bigger bed so we could both fit and there were a few kitchen items that would be nice. That's just us though. We're fine if people want to give us money. We aren't going on a honeymoon right away so it'd be nice to help pay for that. You might see it as annoying and a burden to have people bring gifts but they do it because they care.
2007-12-02 09:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would bring a bottle of vodka or Black absinthe.
If i can't bring a gift - then i would help the party
The black absinthe is very very strong. A mate got some on holiday - It is legal across here. Not sure if it was legalised again in the US
2007-12-02 16:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by steven m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift certificate to a clothing store for the both of them.....how about one to Victoria's Secret where they can both pick out something special for her to wear for him?...the restuarant gift certificate posted here earlier is a great idea...especially if you can find out their fav eatery......how about a gift certificate at their nearest grocery store so they can stock up their cabinets compliments of you....I even now would love that kind of gift.....or to a place like Bed, Bath & Beyond/Linens & Things.....Home Depot/Lowes (things always need fixing up)....a media store so they can purchase/rent movies or get CD's.....How about a place like The Body Shop for great bath/personal items.....and the list goes on, only limited by your imagination....
2007-12-02 13:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn´t comply-I would get the bride something personal that she could always use.
When we married, we asked that no one give us gifts-we were moving overseas and couldn´t bring a lot of things. My friends ended up getting me gifts that were small-thong panties, other lingerie, small frames with pictures of them, etc.
2007-12-02 13:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not take a gift of non perishable food for the local food pantry?..or donate to a charity in the couples name?
I can't see getting something for the couple when the already have more than enough..
2007-12-02 10:54:53 · answer #11 · answered by Boopsie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋