For single men 25 and over. Why aren't you married yet?

Question

I'm wondering why some guys don't want to get married? What's stopping you from committing? After your mid 20's dont men usually date to settle down?

Answer 1

I'm 44, never married, no kids. I have dated, but women don't seem interested - I assume that's because I haven't been successful in life like some guys. I'd like to be married, but I don't really want any kids - just not my thing. I'm not fat, looks sort of average/OK, highly educated (published novelist). I'm close to giving up, to be honest, and just slipping into middle age, anticipating death from old age without ever finding The One. That would be a tragedy really, as I have so much to offer - sigh.

Answer 2

I am a 28 almost 29 year old single Mormon woman. So I am going to say it's happening more often that their are more single men and women in the LDS faith. As a single person, I have to say that sometimes we don't get married right off because we either want to go on a mission, go to school, or end up working out the kinks in our lives. We're not always content with the lot of singles that we see in the single wards or groups. I went to my first single ward when I was about 22-25 or so and I felt kind of out of touch their. It seemed to me that all the guys and girls had already paired up and the ward was made up mostly of girls.It unsettled me and basically disgusted me so much I went back to the family ward. I occasionally go to single activities but also I am sort of shy around guys so that's another problem I have. I guess it depends on the person. Some people have no problems finding the right guy/girl and getting married. Others take a bit more time. And I am really annoyed at people who claim that a Mormon who doesn't marry has to be homosexual etc or not normal in some way. Not true, we just haven't found the right person, or finishing up with school, mission and other things in our lives before we settle down.

Answer 3

Hahaha - I was 30 before I found the woman I wanted to settle down with. Had some nearlys but not quite the whole enchilada

Why do you think men in their early 20s have the smarts or commitment to make a choice about who the want to be with by the time they are 50 60 70 or 90?

Met my woman (the one) when I was in my 30s and even then it took us 3 years to get married and forsake ALL others.

Answer 4

Hmm.. I can kind of see why your name fits. First, men don't want to marry anymore after age 25 because they are getting free sex from women because of the women's liberation movement so why should they marry someone when sleeping with more women is so much more fun and easy to do? Second, men are more self-focused on their careers more than ever-they come first, although, the economy is partly to blame because it is more difficult to make enough money so they can feel like the provider. Third, men think that there are so many options avaliable to them to meet women-they worry that they will choose the wrong woman and then someone better will come along. They are always looking for the '10' even though most of them don't come close to deserving one(porn is partly to blame). Fourth, there really are A LOT of amazing women out there and not a comparable amount of men so they really do have to choose wisely I guess. Fifth, I suspect that men are having a hard time adjusting to women's new role and power in careers and they might be intimidated or angry about it. Those are the reasons that men don't want to get married after 25-from a woman's perspective.

Answer 5

Who said everyone just has to be married or else? If a guy don't marry, some woman will ask, " Whats the matter? Don't you like girls?" or that men dont want to commit. Just because you think you should get married, don't think you are making any rules or laws. It is an individual choice. If you live your life the way you want, nobody cares. So why should everyone live their life the way YOU want them too? Free will, free choice. Why are some people so nosie?
I don't mean to hurt your feelings but why are you so concerned how other people live? Were you left in charge of everybody? Are you in control of all things? Just asking :)

Answer 6

Well I do want to get married, but I just can't find a women that fits my life style. I don't get into clubs and I don't hang out with the guys, because I feel like I am so passed all of that but the women I meet are still in the clubs and likes to run the streets.My last relationship was four months ago and this is why we broke up. I want spend time with one person, do things that is just us and have a real desire to want to learn about each others needs, wants likes, dislikes what to do when she is sad. I know there are women who want the same but for me it is just finding her.

Answer 7

Well, for a lot of men, there is no real benefit to settling down. Mid-20's is actually really young. Still plenty of time to have fun until its time to raise children and listening to a wife.

Answer 8

Hahahah,,,, A very good question and hard to answer,, I can't tell you about others, just mine,,

Marriages stands in to two steps,,,
1- As a need that 40% of people do.
2- Love,,,, that 60% of people do.

Once, I felled in love, and realized how sweet it is and still am loyal for that, but according to our parent’s disagreements, I failed to marry her.

Now, to be hones, I haven't found any other girl to replenish it and makes me feel in love,,, so, I would prefer to be single rather than marrying some one that I don't love.....

Its is not the girls who don't love me,,, Noooooooo,,,, As I know, there are four of them, but I am not interested,,, you tell me what can I do..?.

So the conclusion is that, marriage will happen when the heart wants, and I am not married, because my heart is sleeping and is not willing to accept some one.

Answer 9

I'm 35, single and I lead a fairly happy and healthy life but haven't found a girlfriend yet. I know girls who I'm friends with but not a special one as yet. I haven't had any experience with girls (although a girl did accidently see me showering naked in the men's changing room at my sports club about 9 years ago!), but I'm happy to wait for Mrs Right to fall in love with and if necessary she can teach me...:)

Answer 10

I am in my 30's and have not found the right person. Some people come across one way and end up being another way unfortunately. Plus it is hard to meet new people when you are stuck in a work routine.