I love my girlfriend very much. In the past, she used to talk continuously to me and not anyone else, but that time, we dint used to go out. Now, a few weeks back, another guy proposed her. Although she denies that she is not interrested in him, she speaks to him (online) the whole day. When I come online, even then she talks to him and I am left alone! What should I do to get the magic back in our relationship? How do I know whether she really likes me or may be she has lost interest in me? Please help me.. Thanks..
2007-12-01 21:16:20 · 18 answers · asked by Roy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She and I, both of us are 16 years old. If I ask her whether she really likes me or not, then she gets real mad and tells me that I dont trust her and then she tells that I doubt her a lot! The thing is, after that guy proposed her, she has been acting wierd. Like, even when I am online on Yahoo Messenger, she will be invisible and she won't talk to me! What can I do to all this? Its not as easy as you people think! I am really serious with her! Sometimes she is real good to me, but sometimes she is never in the mood to talk! What can I do to THIS?! Thanks for the answers till now hope I get good answers even now.. Thanks..:-)
2007-12-01 21:39:46 · update #1
Let's see.
1. your girlfriend was proposed to by another guy
2. she talks to that guy "the whole day"
3. she talks to him more than she does you?
I think you should:
1. Grow a backbone - clearly she's using you.
2. Kick her to the curb - clearly she's into this other guy more and not being honest with you about it.
3. find someone who likes YOU - then you won't have to ask questions like this.
2007-12-01 21:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably into the new guy just for the thrill of initial attraction. You know the initial flirtation, doubt and excitement?
You need to look back at what she found exiting about you and try and emphasize these qualities when you're together.
If she liked that you were a good listener, ask her questions, get her talking. Stuff like that.
And don't just sit there when she's talking online to another guy! get up and do something. That's doesn't mean you have to command her to shut the PC off or anything, just distract her and draw her away.
One more little tip. Girls like to be the center of attention and adoration. Maybe you need to rethink how your treat her because that may be what she is getting from mr. chat.
But the end of the day, if its meant to be then its meant to be. Do not let yourself be used as a doormat.
2007-12-02 05:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Roy--this is life--so get ready to move on to a new girl who does not sit on the computer all day with another man--you need to find an interesting young lady who enjoys stuff other than sitting on the computer. It is a big world--sitting home means she will never find it---you need to face the facts--stop wasting time and MOVE ON. Relax--this just happens--no rule says you have to keep trying with her. It is a lost cause--she is disrespecting you--both of you have no communications skills--all relationships need effective communications---yes, you can tell her you don't appreciate her being on the computer with some other guy--but why waste your time--it is too late for any changes...smile and good luck.
2007-12-02 05:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to inform you, but your relationship is over.
If your girlfriend has been chatting with another man long enough for him to proposed to her, then that should tell you that the magic in the relationship is no more.
Additionally, she's disrespecting you to the nth degree. So why would you even want to continue to be with her?
Drop her like a hot potato and move on with your life. You deserve so much better.
2007-12-02 05:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just flat out disrespectful, you can talk to her but who is to say it will change or it might push to him if she is looking for a way to start a fight and break up, I say as nice as possible let her know how you feel and you think that the two of you need to part ways, because you want someone that is about you and is sure of that
2007-12-02 05:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Reggie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude.. you dont deserve to be with someone like that.... take a break from each other.... if after like a week or so.. you still want to be with each other then go 4 it... if not... time to see other ppl......
i just read your additional info.... dude... you are too young... enjoy life, i bet this is your first girlfriend... but being in this relationship is not healthy... u need to break it off... ohh and than invisible thing on yahoo messenger.... well it looks like she's trying to get a break from you... follow my advice.... been there donde that ;)
good luck man
2007-12-02 05:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by iluvmyeclipseturbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's loosing intrest in you, maybe she needs you to spice things up a bit, try some new things, if your both on line, send her a game that you two can both play at the same time, or send her cards or funny pictures... and in person romance her or something, go do something you both havent done before... dont forget to tell her how much she means to you and compliment her too
2007-12-02 05:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by missmichelleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has lost interest, from what you wrote here. You need to talk to her about what is happening in your relationship (or if she even considers it a relationship). Good luck!
2007-12-02 05:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really agree with John M. You should go and talk to her.Tell her how you feel. Don't hide your feelings. Ask her whether she really loves you or not? If she doesn't,just leave her and find someone that will love you truthfully.
Good Luck!
2007-12-02 05:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by FARdreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and how you feel. The best way to put a relationship back on track is communication.
2007-12-02 05:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋