first, I'm a non-smoker, he smokes constantly... like 6 cigarettes every 3 hours. Usually 2 at a time (one after another), another thing that drives me up the wall, is that he thinks it's okay to cuss around his older kid who is 10 years old... he likes to drink beer (like 6-7 at a time) at this does not affect him. I like his kids, they are great, he has a 3 yr old son too... At least he does his smoking outside. He talks constantly, and when I listen, he thinks I"m not listening and questions me about what he just said. He is living in an apt with his two boys, and I have offered to have them stay at my house on many occassions just to get him out of his tiny 1 bedroom apt with his kids. I spent the whole day over at his place today with his 2 kids, and he said "I know you are itching to get out of here"... During that time, I played ball with his 3 year old boy, and watched his older son play a video game on his X-box. He talked for over an hour to his friend on the phone...
2007-12-01 19:37:25 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
about some investment thing he could do online. He said that it was really important, and I politely said "I understand" and he said "no you don't"... what was I suppose to say??? About everytime I open my mouth up, he has something neg. to say about how I responded or what I responded with. I'm watching his 2 boys at least 1-2 times per week from 6-9 so that he can attend real-estate school (he doesn't have anywhere to put his kids during this time, since his x-wife won't watch them during this time). He is getting weird, and I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is stressed out and not telling me, or what his problem is. He said that I always seem to think there is something wrong (well, this is because he is always putting me down or giving me a hard time everytime I speak). what is the deal with this guy anyways??? All he does is talk, talk, talk. and I listen, listen, listen. It is wearing on me.
2007-12-01 19:42:22 · update #1
Uh oh...
First off I have been 100% honest since I have known you. I smoke, I drink on occassion and I cuss sometimes, no surprise there.. 10 years of Army life I guess.. heh. If you really have a problem why not just talk to me about it?
Im happy in my 1 bdrm apt with my boys and they are happy too, we dont need saving! I did talk to my friend for an hour about business, Im sorry...
I started the real estate classes and had a very long talk with you about it. You knew I was hesitant about it bc I didnt want to burden you. You insisted it was alright and stated you wanted to be supportive in every aspect of our relationship. If you have a problem with it, why offer?
Yes, I talk and talk and talk some more... could it be I enjoy conversation with you? You said it was refreshing to be with someone who shared their thoughts and didnt just avoid you like your ex husband.
You always assume something is wrong when there isnt anything wrong at all. Maybe thats just what your used too. Im not neg toward you, my humor sometimes is sarcastic but I never meant to make you feel low.
Oh and in case your wondering, I was in your history looking for those homes you wanted to see and ran across this. I have to say it is quite hurtful.
I told you I was rough around the edges(smoke etc..) but that doesnt mean I dont open my heart and put everything I have into a relationship. Maybe you are looking for a mama's boy like your ex's....
Again I dont need to be rescued, I am happy and when I look in the mirror I feel good about who I see on the outside and inside. Some open communication would serve you well.
I appreciate everything you have done for me but I cant help feeling that you werent sincere about it now. You offered to do this and that then complain about it. I am truley sorry if I have become a burden to you. Im sorry I drive you crazy!
2007-12-02 03:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by David D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just answered your own question. You've been dating him 4 only 3 weeks & you talk like you've been w/ him 4ever & the kids are yours. What does that tell U?
It cant be all that good. U need to move on. If he's that weird now, cant wait to see what U post in the next couple of weeks.
2007-12-01 19:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please listen....been there myself, but i made the mistake and had a kid with mine.
Get out of that nasty situation asap!
if he is showing those signs already and you feel horrible as a person being around him then he is nothing more then a control freak and those type of men can be hurtfull physically and mentally. Get out before you have no selfesteem left.
2007-12-01 19:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by sweetenuf22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is driving him crazy about his x wife he is also hopeing you wont find out he is just using you as a baby sitter and other things sorry just the facts
2007-12-01 19:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by boddie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating this guy for 3 weeks?!?! And you're this invested in it? Dude, seriously...dump him, you're not his girlfriend - you're his nanny.
2007-12-01 19:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by iluvgahan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely too long to read
2007-12-01 19:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by swimchic2807 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is the question?
2007-12-01 19:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jeffery H K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋