About 2 & a half years ago I met a guy.. we instantly had a connection and fell in love....i seriously didnt think anything would ever be able to come between us but after about 2years he broke up with me for another girl. I got back with him after that because my feelings for him are so strong and I always forgive him for everything..... Well i screwed myself over because he left me again. Everytime he says how sorry he is and how no girl compares to me & that I'm his soulmate...We started talking again a few weeks ago but i'm starting to think he was only using me because I just found out he's dating someone else again! He has hurt me so bad and it sucks because i've let this happen... I dont know how i could love someone so much who has left me so many times...It also hurts because apparently he really likes this new girl. I really want to move on with my life and forget him its just hard knowing that we used to be so great...What would you do if you were me?
2007-12-01 18:21:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and im not in the place to be able to date anyone else...i just couldnt handle it
2007-12-01 18:21:40 · update #1
i know what you mean. but that's the "hurt"- you talking right now.. the you who thinks that he's the the only guy you can ever love. if the guy treated you like crud more than once you better learn from that mistake and just move on. i know it's not easier said than done but why don't you spend more time with your friends or family or other loved ones? healing alone after a bad break up is not entirely good. why don't you do something that will make you feel good about yourself? like get a make over, hit the gym, go shopping, have a girls' night out with a few close friends. you don't exactly have to look for a new guy right away or even force yourself to love again raight away because it would be unfair for both your new guy and yourself. the only advice i could give you is to make yourself a better and much hotter you so that he'll see how stupid he is to screw up his chances with such an awsome girl. :) good luck. and screw him! :)
2007-12-01 18:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by bella*muerte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is obviously using you. I think you know that now, but just in case the obvious needed to be stated for you...
But in case that wasn't reason enough let me put it to you scientifically as well. Your relationship with him at this point is toxic. The stress and pain you feel because of him can actually hurt your health. Your immune system can be weakened by it, meaning you'll get sick more easily. Just so you know. And in my opinion, I would take some time off. Do some things for yourself, get to know what it's like to be you again. You without him is much different. I know, I was in a long term relationship like that too. You don't need to forget him, he was a big part of your life and I'm sure you have many memories together. But take from the relationship what was good and what made you a better person and leave the rest behind. Just work on that, it took me almost a year. Good luck.
2007-12-01 18:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by tiffanybriana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can be cruel and fate is fate.This guy doesnt love you so you have to accept that and let it be.There will be plenty of guys in life that will love you.
I went out with a gorgeous guy for a while and he broke up with me but the truth is he just didnt like me enough - I cant do anything about that - you cannot make someone like you.
The best thing you can do is move on - he has found someone else so why should you suffer when he is happy.
You deserve to be happy. Wake up - this guy has cheated on you twice and deserves no more chances.
By the way, you haven't 'let' anything happen. Cheating was his decision and good he is out of your life because you dont need a guy like that. Find a real man.
2007-12-01 19:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need right now is to talk about your situation with a dispassionate, disinterested professional. If you're in school, there's usually a counselor who is equipped to deal with these things.
Whatever you do, don't waste your time talking about it with your friends and family - they will tell you "you're too good for him," "he's a loser," etc. All of that may be true, but it doesn't take into consideration the hurt and loss you're experiencing. Friends and family mean well, but they don't always care to look at the whole picture.
The fact of the matter is that you will find someone else who treats you with the love and respect you deserve. The bottom line is your old boyfriend is too emotionally immature to be responsible in his relationships.
2007-12-01 18:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Failing.
2016-05-27 05:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those times (and guys) where you have to honestly stop associating him with those good times. I don't know if that makes sense, but that's how I get over my ex-boyfriends. I keep the good memories, but I don't let myself think of them when I see or talk to the guys. I just think to myself "I no longer have a need for the pain that he has caused me, and even though he was nice and we had a great time together, the bad outweighs the good." It will take a while, I know, but just try it. When you see him, think of what WILL be versus what already has happened. You'll see what I mean when you figure it out. But it will take a while to get used to the change in feelings while around him.
2007-12-01 18:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Cal Poly Chica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is just my two cents. But, since I am still a virgin and ALL of my friends are NOT...if you get together with him again, and you have already had sex, don't do it again. Sex is an extremely powerful thing and I've had friends that wanted to marry their very first girlfriends just because of sex. It's a bond that really is the farthest in terms of a relationship that you can probably go, besides being in love. YOU CAN BE IN LOVE without having sex, because I know I have, but having sex just makes it harder to let go. I would stay abstinent if you get back together with him again and just say, "If you really love me and you really consider me your soulmate, you won't need sex to "complete" our relationship." Like I said, that's just my two cents. And people may comment negatively on my answer because of the fact that I am still a virgin and really don't know.
2007-12-01 18:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give myself time to grieve over the loss of the relationship and then I would move on. You already know this guy is toxic. You have to find the strength within you to walk away and not look back. That's a hard thing to do, but you can do it. Yes, it will hurt, but the pain will eventually go away and you will find all sorts of new and exciting things that the world has to offer you. This is one of life's hard lessons; learn from it and free yourself from the misery.
2007-12-01 18:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once:
"after about 2years he broke up with me for another girl."
Twice:
" . . .he left me again."
Three times:
"I just found out he's dating someone else again! "
"What would you do if you were me?"
Sweet Lady, No offence, but I would take a clue from the clue jar and drop that rotton son of a ***** without delay. Now! Dump him! You need that cock sucker like you need a hole in the head!
Of course, I mean this in the nicest possible way.
2007-12-01 18:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Clueless Dick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
moving on is the hardest thing to do. We always hurt the ones we love. the best piece of advice i can give you is to try to realize that things happen for a reason. and that this was just a lesson in life that you had to learn to prepare you for something greater to come. my belief on life is that we are here to learn things. we have to make mistakes and learn from them. and you are only a failure when you continue to make the same mistakes over and over and not learn from them. its ok to make similar mistakes though. and with love, its much more difficult. but just know that youre a great person and life has something truly great in stored for you. but we have to go through these hard times to really appreciate the good things that are to come.
2007-12-01 18:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Adam Johnson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋