How do I tell my son no?

Question

I previously asked a question about my son having some friends sleep over, (http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071201221636AA2zVBd&r=w) of which a few were girls. 99.9% of the responses said no. How do I tell my son no? Because he will say something like don't you trust me? And I can't say no, because I do trust him. What should I say? Or should i just let them stay over?

Answer 1

Take your hand and put it on your back. Do you feel something hard running down your back?
This is your BACKBONE!
You do have a backbone don't you???
You are the adult. He is the child.
Girls should not sleep over a boys house. There are too many potential problems that can occur and you would be held responsible. And what kind of mother would let her daughter sleep at a boys house?
Just say NO. It is your house and your responsibility to keep your son and his friends safe!!

Answer 2

Just say the girls can come over for a while but only the boys can stay the night. and if he says why, say "because i said so that's why" and if he gets mad say fine then no one can come over and you can stay home all weekend, don't let him say don't you trust me when he says that he is trying to walk all over you to get what he wants,so don't let him do that. And for the lady that said keep an open mind i will tell you i and many of my friends lost our virginity at 14 just so you know, so say no its house rules if you don't like it then you can go to your room and do nothing all weekend your not a baby so don't through a tantrum like one. Good luck

Answer 3

lol, i answerd the other question too.

you don't have to tell him you don't trust him, tell him you don't trust his friends (both boys&girls).

Stuff happens @ that age & you are not willing to take responsibility if something were to happen. Also, Definitely talk to the Girls parents because I bet they would be left in the dark about where their daughters will be the night of the sleep over!!Probably sleeping over @ one of their "girlfriends houses".

I've been there done that. It doesn't necessarily mean something sexual or anything of that nature will happen, however there's no guarantee it won't.

Use Common Sense & Go with Your Instinct!!

Answer 4

Telling kids no starts at an early age....how did you do it when he was little? With our son we give him a brief explaination as to why he can't have/do whatever it is he wants and that's the end of the conversation and he knows it.

Our son is three so his explainations are "that's not yours", "that's not nice", "we don't do that", "not today". In your son's situation I would say something like "I don't think that a co-ed sleepover is appropriate for your age. We'll talk about it in a couple of years." End of conversation.

If he decides to throw a fit (teens are just as likely as toddlers to try it!) do what you did when he was a kid. For our son, we tell him that we understand he's upset and that if he needs to he can feel free to spend some alone time in his room thinking things over. That should work just as well at 14 as it does at 3.

Hang in there!

Answer 5

The answer would be no you just open your mouth and say NO and say it has nothing to do with trust it has to do with your moral beliefs and if he keeps it up keep saying NO it's that simple. Tell him there is no reason for girls to stay over if is all they are going to do is sleep they can come over have fun and go home to sleep not like he can talk to them while sleeping. No good reason for them to stay over

Answer 6

Just go with what your heart says if you really dont mind and you trust him let them stay but dont just give in for the sake of it.
If you really dont want them to stay say no and stick to it be firm if he kicks up a fuss or starts shouting at you cancel the whole thing you are the parent and your wishes need to be respected

Answer 7

Be the parent, just say no. Is it about trust? Is it about maintaining the decency of your household where your son does not get to have overnight company of the opposite sex? You are not his friend, you are his parent. So what if he doesnt love you anymore?
Stop feeding him for a few days and then show up to his room with a Big Mac, he'll love you again.

Answer 8

you are the mother. you look him into the eye and say " no you are not going" and if he ask if you trust him you can say " yes i do, but you are still not going" Don't let him go because he will not take no for an answer. If you allow him to go because he has a fit ,than later on he will think all he needs to do is whine like a baby to get what he wants.

Answer 9

I'm Catholic too, and to be sincere I just about left the church till a homosexual-pleasant Priest talked to me at a role and instructed me that there are a couple of participants of the church that don't accept as true with Rome's stance on homosexuality - and are completly supportive of open sexuality. I propose you discover a extra pleasant Priest that you'll be able to open up to. That being stated, the cause your son does not want counselling is due to the fact, to be frank, he is performed not anything mistaken. You can help your son by way of being there for him, reassuring him (with out creating a gigantic deal approximately it), and offering tons of hugs and making certain existence maintains on as typical. If he begins seeing any one and needs you to satisfy them, take a look at your excellent to be open and alluring as good. That would be the truly experiment for you and your spouse: are you able to take delivery of his existence entirely whilst the time comes. If you'll be able to, your son will likely be some of the such a lot blessed and grateful kids on Earth. Coming out of the closet - ESP. THE CATHOLIC CLOSET - will also be very, very horrifying. You will have to quite admire the quantity of braveness it took to your son to inform you what he did and to confide what's commonly his private darkest mystery to you. I simplest desire my moms and dads were extra accepting. Mine kicked me out of the residence and nonetheless slightly speak to me. You've performed extra to your son than you can ever recognize, and in time your loved ones will develop and be healthful and affluent.

Answer 10

I am worried that you can't say no to your son.
You may have spoilt him.
I would not trust a spoilt child as they only tell their parents what they want to hear.
"Aww, mum you don't trust me."
It's all a con.
Don't fall for it or you'll be a grandma.