He's a musician and I trust him a lot... But I just don't trust other people. I know I'll be thinking about those rediculous girls throwing themselves at him and it REALLY irritates me... And the other thing is that I'll know I'll miss the hell out of him! He's only doing shows right now, but his band's about to get signed to a record label. I'm so worried that this will make our relationship fall apart since we will barely see each other =[
How do I cope with this?? How have you other women coped with this same type of situation? I know it's his dream and I fully support it, but I don't want to see our relationship go through a black hole...
2007-12-01 17:36:31 · 12 answers · asked by laurynhorror 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I want to go on tour with him and I asked him about it, but he gave me two excuses: I would ruin it for him because he wants to have fun (party), and it would be too expensive =/
2007-12-01 17:41:59 · update #1
Uufortunately there is nothing you can do but trust him. If a guy is going to cheat, then he will cheat but you know him and if you say he won't cheat then he probably won't. You do need to see him so if possible maybe you can get a webcam going on if your cell phone and his cell phone have a camcorder, everyother day send each other a video message. And let him know how you feel about him and that you miss him.
And remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2007-12-01 17:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by qtpooh83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I used to be with a person who was on his way to being in a band and I worried about the same exact thing. But what doesn't gte me is WHY you can't go with him. Those two excuses are very lame and make no sense. You're his FIANCE and you should be able to come with him....If he really cared and loved you he wouldn't mind you being around and pay a little extra for you. It sounds pretty suspicious to me why you're not allowed to come. I know how men in bands are....Drugs, Sex and Rock 'N Roll is what they want. Most men in bands aren't faithful, hun. I hope you somehow learn to deal with this. Remember, if you can't have trust for someone, there is no possible way you can stay with them.
2007-12-01 17:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. you are (both) really young to get married.
#2. if you trust as much as you say you do, then you just have to live with it.
#3. does he have a back-up plan for supporting you and a family? most musicians don't "make it" in the business, so he might want to get another skill.
#4. your relationship will work as long as you both put in effort to make it work. nothing lasts if there isn't anything being put into it.
#5. you need to make sure that you are getting your education, and taking care of yourself.
all relationships go through ups and downs. if you trust him, and yourself, then you'll be fine.
2007-12-01 17:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally hv a close friend of mine(Musician) ,married with 2 kids.He nad his band secured a yr's contra t to play in Thailand as a resident band.Too much temptations and ended up with lots of women.Need me to say more.But if yr trust is solid as a rock.at least u can worry less.
2007-12-01 17:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have a stable relationship it won't fall apart because of this. You seem rather insecure so you need to do some heavy thinking and decide if this relationship is worth hanging on to and pull yourself together if you do decide to hang in there.
2007-12-01 17:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately i think he answered your question....Well cant he party with you there?Im sorry ,iam sure hes a nice guy and all but he said point blank he wont have fun with you there....that wrong......
If you really want to be with him,,,,,,Let him go on tour and see how it goes....You might want to party too....Hang in there girl
2007-12-01 17:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by TERRI S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent seen my girlfriend in 6 months. Just keep it together and talk to him lots. If he loves you, it will work out.
2007-12-01 17:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A musician on tour......and you're expecting him to remain faithful? Ha Ha!!!!!!!
2007-12-01 17:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tour with him
2007-12-01 17:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all make sure he puts a ring on that finger...so if one of those girls does something...your set.
2007-12-01 17:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋