ive been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and obviuosly i want to marry him but he always tell me he is not ready for kinds and to have the responsability of a family so i told him we could wait to have babies. we are both in college but we are almost done, he works in the airport so he earns enough money and so do i and we're saving money too. my mom tells me that maybe i am just wasting time with him. sometimes i feel that after all this time together he is insecure about this realitionship why should i do? should i wait even more time? help me!!!
2007-12-01 17:30:16 · 11 answers · asked by miriam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should sit down and seriously talk with him about it. If he isn't ready for a commitment and doesn't seem to be anytime in the near future, then I would say leave him. It's a waste of time to be in a relationship that isn't going to go anywhere.
2007-12-01 17:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule of engagement: Don't ever wait. When you listened to someone and decided to hold-off your next step, when? 3-5-10-15 yrs.
Once upon a time some chick and her family told me to wait until some later time for she and I to get marry. You know what I told them:
You, You, You and your whole clan, why don't ya'll go *** yourselves?
I personally don't take that kind of crappy bs. If someone wants to marry you, she/he should be ready at any given moment regardless. Life is too short for you or anyone to play the waiting game. If someone wants you to wait usually it's Bullshit. They only want to hold-off on something or they just want to play with your life for theirs own interests. That was the reason why I walked away. This is a true story based on my life. If you live in southern Ca, you certainly would have heard about the deep unhidden truth about my life last 17yrs here in the u.s besides those made-up stories.
You had my personal take on waiting and ready bullshit. It's your turn for you to decide what is best for your own interests. Best of luck!
2007-12-01 17:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married and starting a family does not have to happen all at once. First you need to know if you just want to get married to start a family or you want spend the rest of your lives together or now a days the next decade or so with each other.....
2007-12-01 17:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by wrathofkahn03 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd wait till you were both out of school, and wait a bit and then see what happens. Talk to him and ask him when he thinks that he might be ready
2007-12-01 17:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by pampered_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to him...ask him if he even wants to get married eventually or not....
he may need more time...maybe he wants to finish college first...tell him that if it is time that he needs that you will wait ( you want him to feel that you support him.... telling him will make him feel that you support him and his decisions, he will become more secure about your relationship)
You may want to sit down and talk to him and tell him that you feel he is insecure about the relationship and want to know how to work it out...
Good Luck!
2007-12-01 17:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are still i college. Wait for some time, and then talk to him. If he really loves you , he'll understsnd.
2007-12-01 17:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Akhs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not ready then he's not, but if you are then go with someone who shares the same feelings towards marriage.
2007-12-01 17:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Survivor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you really want kids, tell him how you feel
⥠communicate with him
2007-12-01 17:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seen
2007-12-01 17:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Because I'm Kool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still in school for christsake, relax alittle.
2007-12-01 17:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by nobudE 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋