My 14 year old son asked me today if he was aloud to have 6 or so people stay the night. Usually I have no problem with this, however this time he wants to have girls and boys. Normally he just has boys stay. If you were in my situation, what would you?
2007-12-01 17:16:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He has two older sisters who will be here tonight as well (17, 18)
2007-12-01 17:22:24 · update #1
I do know the girls who are staying the night, two of which i know and one I know well.
2007-12-01 17:24:25 · update #2
i would tell him no girls.
lol it doesn't matter guyz at that age just want to have sex.
2007-12-01 17:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ty 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely NOT! No, no, no, no. I'm a teen girl and I wouldn't approve. You don't know what they will be doing. Even if they are the most well behaved kids, things could get out of hand. I agree with one of the people before me. There's a 99.9% chance that they will not go all the way, but they will do stuff that you wouldn't approve. They might also feel pressured to do things they don't want. Even if they are well behaved, they might feel akward (ex: some girls wear tight tee-shirts and boy shorts to bed). We teens are manipulative. Don't let your son trick you to let him invite girls over.
As for the people who said "different sleeping arrangements" that is bull crap. Just because they SAY they will sleep in separate rooms from each other, doesn't mean they won't sneak around in the middle of the night. What's the point of a sleepover, anyways, if they won't all be together? It doesn't even matter if there is an older sibling to watch them.
Plus, you don't want the other moms to think you are irresponsible. They won't let their kids hang out with your kids anymore, at least I wouldn't.
If he wants to invite girls and boys, then no sleeping over. PERIOD. It's just that simple. I'm warning you, he might hate you for a little bit. It's part of being the parent of a teenager, but he will get over it.
2007-12-08 09:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by blue-eyed babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes to this. Heres the deal though there is to be a common area where the two can socialize. Supervision is by you/dad or the older girls. If this is ok with them and thier parents then good. Sleeping arrangment: boys with boys ,girls with the girls and the two do NOT enter the other sleeping areas.One violation of this and the party is over and everyone goes home. When supervision stops everyone goes to thier respected rooms for the night. You dont want to be the kid that causes everyone elses parent to be called to pick everyone up. Peer pressure it can be a wonderful thing.
2007-12-03 13:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by rob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha Ha, Absolutely NOT!!! No Matter how Well you Think you Know Any of them. Even your son!
I am still relatively young & Know it is not a good idea, even if you think "oh, separate rooms will solve the problem..." Teens are Sneaky!!!
& don't even think your older daughters will keep an eye out! There's always the problem of wanting to be the "hip" older sibling that will be on your son's side.
Hormones are Raging bad idea's come afoot & not so honorable things happen. I'm not sayin there all gonna be hitting Home Runs, but there are 1st, 2nd & 3rd bases that I wouldn't approve of my child doing under my roof @ such a young age.
& if he try's to fuss or throw a fit about "you don't trust me blah blah" explain it's his friends & the girls & hormones you don't trust. Also, Jesus wouldn't approve!
2007-12-01 17:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by GROWING_impatient 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this age, I don't think it is appropriate for your son to have girls sleeping over, even as a part of a group. For one thing, kids are experimenting with their sexuality earlier every day and I don't think you want to foster that type of environment in your house. Another thing, I don't think the girls parents would appreciate their daughter being asked to attend a sleepover at a boys' house. It is great that your son has friends that are girls, but I would definitely put the kibosh on any overnighter plans.
2007-12-01 17:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm fourteen, and just so you know, THAT'S A BAD FRIGGIN' IDEA!!! I'd steer clear from that, 'cause when guys turn thirteen, that's when they get active, usually... And if they do, make sure the girls sleep in separate rooms, and you can even set up "traps". Like when they're in the room for the night, make sure YOU close the door, and slip a lil' piece of paper into the crack before it closes, that way, if the paper is on the ground, either someone was in there, or they came out... There are flaws in that though, bathroom for instance...
2007-12-01 17:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by CJ G. 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
dont let girls stay the night not at age 14 lol, belive im 14 and guys are at that age were they would do something make the girls leave maybe late at night but not stay over thats a BIG NO NO
2007-12-01 17:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by BlackMan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I raised five children, so trust me when I say No Way Jose! I did it once, my friend did it once and it was not good. Just tell him that he can the boys over, but it is not right for him to have girls and boys sleeping in the same house together. If he grunts further about it, tell him you would like to call all their parents and get their opinions? I'll bet that will quiet everything down. :)
2007-12-01 17:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by FolkstonHorseLover 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him no girls are spending the night....period. For as long as he lives with you and goes to school...no females can spend the night. That is truly breeding trouble....
and furthermore, I would limit the number of "dudes" staying..
like down to no more than three!!
2007-12-01 17:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by LIzzz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes to the boys No to the girls.
2007-12-01 18:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kate e 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's with this co-ed sleep over thing, and people wonder where their kids are having sex at 13 and 14. that never would have flown in my house either, stick to your guns he'll get over it. If he pulls the "oh you don't trust me" bit tell him damn right i don't trust you, who trusts a 14 year old anyway? they're all just raging hormones.
2007-12-01 17:47:08 · answer #11 · answered by chell 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋