If your 10 year old child came to you and confessed they were gay (or that they liked persons of the same sex)? Would you believe that people are born gay? Remember, you have raised them and tried to instill in them Christian values and yet at 10, they have said they are gay. Do you think your thoughts on gay people would change?
2007-12-01 17:10:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
gumby - at 10 I wasn't thinking about sex exactly but I was looking at people I would want to date. deciding who is attractive. I had a boyfriend at that age. We didn't have sex, but I knew that boys were attractive to me. Heck, at age 5 I was kissing a boy in a closet at my Lutheran school. LOL ( boy did I get in trouble for that.) BTW- I am female
2007-12-01 17:17:34 · update #1
God- Do you think that if the child could tell their parents and their parents let them know that they loved them no matter what, would it reduce the number of gay teenage suicides?
2007-12-01 17:20:38 · update #2
First, the problem of suicide... Nobody commits suicide whom knows they are truly loved by both God and the people in their lives. I speak from personal experience. Therefore, just as God loves all sinners, but hates all sin, it is our responsibility to reflect God's character and love unconditionally in the same manner as God. That given...
Outside of marriage, at any age, it really isn't an issue of homo- or hetero-sexual interest -- it is simply a matter of sexual interest. It is a sin to lust with the eye of the mind.
Mat. 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
Mat. 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
This is how I would instruct my child.
And for you Atheists, don't give me any malarkey about indoctrinating my child to believe in a God you say I can't prove the existence of. A parent's responsibility is to instruct their children as to what is right and wrong. Not all, but most of the interpersonal trouble we have in the world is because of parent's whom don't teach their children between right and wrong. Permissiveness is a communicable disease which crosses generations.
Naturally, such instruction would have to continue as to what valid sexual interest constitutes and what is a valid sexual context.
Rom. 1:16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.
Rom. 1:17 For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written. The just shall live by faith.
Rom. 1:18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;
Rom. 1:19 Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath showed it unto them.
Rom. 1:20 For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:
Rom. 1:21 Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
Rom 1:22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,
Rom. 1:23 And changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.
Rom. 1:24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves:
Rom. 1:25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshiped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
Rom. 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
Rom. 1:27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.
Rom. 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
Rom. 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Rom. 1:30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Rom. 1:31 Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
Rom. 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
Lastly, as hard as it is for some people to face it, I would teach my children the facts of life. Fact: God created sexual intercourse to naturally occur between opposite sexes. Fact: Sexual intercourse is physically not possible between like sexes without massive surgical intervention -- otherwise, only sexual gratification is possible. Fact: Mere sexual gratification is not nearly as satisfying as true sexual intercourse. I make this last statement out of 50+ years of experience in all of these areas. I know of that which I speak.
God bless.
2007-12-02 02:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by ♫DaveC♪♫ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My heart goes out to you right now, and you will be in my prayers. It does sound like he has been exposed to this idea, and these type of thoughts through other sources, friends, media sources, etc. At 10, it is highly doubtful that they have any idea what that really entails, and that they are trying to fit in somewhere, somehow. Being a Chrisitan child can be a tough thing in the public domain.
That being said, now is the time to have an open and frank discussion with the child about the Lord, sin, salvation, etc. I'm not saying you haven't, obviously you are raising teh child in God's presence.
People are not born gay, God does not make people gay, it is a choice. No person can change God. He is the same always. That being said, I do not treat a gay person with any less respect, love, and compassion as I do everyone else. I have a number of friend who are gay, and we have some pretty lively discussions on the situation.
Also, there is a website that has a course in sexual purity for teens. Your child may be a bit young for it yet, but you can check it out at settingcaptivesfree.com Click on our courses, and you will find it. They courses are awesome and completely Biblically based. There is one for gay people as well, but that would be complete beyond a 10 year old's knowledge and so forth.
I am in prayer for your situation and for your child. All things are sifted through God's hands. Including this, and faith in Him will provide the words and wisdome you need right now.
God bless
2007-12-01 23:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by lovinghelpertojoe 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's false doctrine to think that we can somehow do the job of The Holy Spirit, and you're setting yourself and your kids up for a lot frustration if you believe that. All Christian parents want their kids to turn out right, and to be good Christians. But there is no guarantee that will happen. Kids grow up and make up their own minds. You can't make them become Christians, and you can't convict them of sin. You job as a Christian parent is to teach them about God, to provide a Godly example, to have clear rules and guidelines, to be consistent, and to love them unconditionally ~ even if they grow up and reject your beliefs. Your relationship with them is more important than anything. Enjoy your kids, and let them enjoy you. Relax, and put them in God's hands. Don't freak out and think everything is up to you. God can raise them without you if he so chooses.
2016-04-07 02:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is a real interesting Question! As a Parent I would think first off, he is confused- at 10 what does he know about being gay? or what thoose feelings are.....
2nd I would love my child NO MATTER WHAT. But I would try to talk to my pastor about what to do and perhaps he can talk to him ( Kids dont want to tell thier mom and dad certain things) Perhaps this is deeper for him, so I would try to find the Root. But as a Christian I do NOT belive that God made people gay, that would be like God making people murders at the age of 10- its about free will.
You are doing right aobut raising him to know God, but he is at the age where he has to accept him for himself. Perhaps sit with him and watch a family movie together ( Passion of the Christ) and let him know what sins are, and what Jesus went through on the cross for ALL sins. But dont get angry at him, love him no matter what. In the end its his choice. Pray that God will deliver him from this and get any sexual immoral thaught from his head. Talk to your pastor, friends and family. TALK TO HIM- Be up front and honest with him.
2007-12-01 17:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, it is a choice I am a guy who found out he likes women at the age of 5 would that change your opinion about my family? women have been a tempation of mine since I had my first taste of sex with them however, it is a tempation I need to stay away. Just like your Son, so he's gay well then tell him to stay away from the boys and not mention his sin. I do not go around parading my sins to the world. If he is gay he needs to hide it as a thief hides his thieving. Sin is not in the desire it is in the giving in. God came and his blood was strong enough for all sin and sinners there is no sin too great for his blood that was shed. Just make sure he doesn't do anything bad. His tempation is the same as anyone elses jsut with the same kind. That's all
2007-12-01 17:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by bboyballer112 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well...hmmm...that is a toughy huh? i don't believe that people are born gay genetically. but i do know that we are born with a sinful nature in which homosexuality is a part. people are born with certain sinful tendencies not associated with upbringing. not like the person who would have been caring and thoughtful if not influenced by a violent upbringing and is now murderous and brutal and other such cases. but certain people in their nature are decietful even when parents may not be. or unusually angry for a loved child. do you get it? so it may be a tendency for them, but God still must be what is upheld. i will never accept my children sleeping around with anyone they are not married to it will never be okay with me. nor will any children that choose to live a homosexual lifestyle. i will love them and do what i can to be a great parent, but what God values is more important than anything.
even how much i would want to accept it as okay. but all i know is life is hard my friend...life is hard.
2007-12-01 17:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by GARY R 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why does it matter whether you were born gay or you picked it up along the way? Just because you were born with homosexual tendencies does not make it correct to indulge these tendencies any more than some one who is born with the tendency to have a bad temper is correct to lose his temper. Being born with a tendency toward sin is not the same thing as sinning. Giving in to these sinful tendencies is when it becomes sin. We are all born with inherited tendency toward sin. The Holy Spirit is God's agency for changing sinful nature whether inherited or aquired. Therefore, there is good news for those who have inherited sinful tendencies and for those who have picked up bad character traits along the way. Those who argue that being gay is OK because God made them that way are just looking for an excuse to sin. I could just as easily argue that it is OK for me to be a drug addict because God made me with an addictive personality. There is no excuse for sin regardless if it is inherited or acquired.
By the way. Jesus was born with tendencies to sin the same as you an I were. Unlike us, he did not give in to any of these tendencies and lived a life without sin. He allowed the Holy Spirit to rid Him of all His sinful tendencies so that Satan could find no fault in Him. In addition, He did not acquire any sinful tendencies along the way. In overcoming sin, He did not use any power that is not readily available to us. The Bible states that He learned obedience by the things that He suffered. God does not allow any temptation to come upon us that is greater than we can bear. With each temptation, He makes a way of escape. Through the power of the Holy Spirit we can overcome any sin.
2007-12-01 17:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by 19jay63 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would pray for my child and perhaps seek professional consul.
If in fact they become gay in adulthood, I will still love them, while making it extremely clear that the life style will never ever be acceptable to me as a Christian Parent. Sometimes things happen in life which are not our desire, but we keep living and loving in Christ.
I Cr 13;8a
2007-12-01 20:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't have ill feelings against people who are gay and I don't shun them so I would think that I would treat my 10 year old the same BUT no, I don't think people are born gay, I think this is something they acquire or choose so I would always voice to my child what I thought about their choice, but I would not treat them like they were a walking plague.
2007-12-01 17:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Indya M 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Love the sinner, even though you hate the sin!
I would give him a big hug and say "Me too!" (Just kidding!)
Actually, I would give him a big hug and say "Nothing will ever stop God from loving you...nor me and mom...but God hates SODOMY, so we do too."
Cecellia and I pray for our children daily! Already!! But those awful words would make me pray more specificly, against his sin; and pray all the harder, without ceasing too.
I love abortionists too, but I love GOD more, so I oppose the choice of babycide too!
GOD IS LOVE!!!
2007-12-01 23:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was chosen by God before I was born for a purpose God has in my life. God has a purpose for everyone. I believe man's perversion has passed from father to son as it states in the bible. People are born of sin and must accept that and repent and ask Jesus into their heart and live by God's rules or face judgment day with a certainty of reward according to their choices of acts in life. We are responsible for our choices, God's laws are clear.
2007-12-01 17:19:03 · answer #11 · answered by Dennis James 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋