He is on my mind everyday - last night he came to me in my dream. What can I do? I just want to cry - all the time. I feel like a part of my heart has been ripped out. I have got to get past this - at least enough to carry on with my life. I need your advice.
2007-12-01 16:59:14 · 11 answers · asked by Gina T 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you probably will not get over it for a long time; but that is normal. Just except it, in time it will come to you as an acceptance. as for now it's to soon to feel any other way; remember it was a suicide, that always for some reason makes it more difficult. but i assure you that you will be ok. both my brother and sister commited suicide, as well as my father. suicides are always more difficult to handle it seems like.
2007-12-01 18:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by joni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever a person experiences the death of a person who is close to them, they go through this process. At first, you may have experienced denial....not believing this actually happened to your friend. Then there comes anger, grief, and then acceptance. Sometimes this can last short or long depending on how close you were to the person. Since this happened months ago like you said, then this person must have been very dear to you and close. Just know that you're not alone....everyone experiences this situation at one time or another in their lives. Just remember that even though he may not be there with you physically, he will always be with you in your heart and spiritually. He'll always be by your side even though it may not seem like it at times. If you feel the need to cry, then do so. It's much better to let out your feelings rather than keeping them inside which can make you much more worse than you already are. Believe me, I know. I really hope you get through this.
2007-12-02 01:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can ever get over it..and you shouldn't. And if it was months ago that's fine if your still sad..suicide is horribly abrupt death that no one should ever go through. If it's affecting your own personal life try to turn the hurt around and maybe start your own suicide forum..or volunteer at a local hot line..anything to turn something negative back into the light. If you think you still are going down hill..you will need professional advice from a Dr...he can maybe give you a temporary solution to a long term problem..good luck I know it's so sad..and try not to focus on the what ifs and whys..cause they'll tear you down...think of the positive things your friend has brought to your life..and how maybe you can prevent others from going into darkness.
2007-12-02 01:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend and her brother committed suicide a few months ago. I bought her a book called Aftershocks. I can't remember the authors last name,but his first name is David. The book store can find it for you easily. It is around $10. I hope this, along with time, helps. Also, you may want to seek counseling. At least give it a try.
2007-12-02 01:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by melinda_rn2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get over the death of a loved one...especially when it happens by their own hand. Time does heal all wounds. I know all about the weird dreams, the depression, the person constantly being on your mind.....it's really tough. Maybe talking to a friend will help you a bit. Just let it all out to someone. Or write it in a journal. Find a comfortable way to get it off your chest. Maybe you should try writing a letter to your friend, maybe a kind of good-bye letter. It might offer you some closure to his death. I hope you find a good way to help you get over this incident. Good luck.
2007-12-02 01:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*Hugggggggs*
My friend commited suicide 6 years ago, and I think of him every day. It will get easier to breathe and live without the hurt after a while.
I'm not saying it will make it better, but focusing yourself in a positive way to honor him will help it eventually. Whether that is working with troubled kids, or just being kind to neighbors, or listening to a family member who you could have a better relationship with... you can't do anything about what happened, but you can decide whether your memory of him will turn to something positive or negative.
2007-12-02 01:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lamborama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will come to realize that the person is gone, there is nothing you can do about it. He won't come back... but you can't just forget him completely. Don't dwell on it... of course that is hard in the first couple of months preceding a death, but you can start moving towards it. Try and think about him less each day, or find a way to take about 10 min a day in remembrance of him . You can spend those minutes crying, or talking to him... a picture of him maybe. My mother used to talk to my grandfather's picture when he passed away. I remember how hard it was for her, and I just kept telling her, it's okay to be sad... just don't let the sadness consume your life. Remember that one day you'll see him again, and that he's always in your heart. He'll be with you no matter if he's physically gone or if he's not. He wouldn't want you to dwell on his missing presence, he'd want you to live your life how you were before he was gone. No one would ever want you to stop your life completely to show pity on their death. It's hard to get over a death, and one day you will... we all lose loved one's but we get over it one day... may take longer for others, but the process for you has just begun. Good luck... and don't forget him, he wouldn't want to be forgotten.
2007-12-02 03:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Rosiekins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are grieving, which can take a long time, often around a year or more. You will never "get over it" but you will eventually be able to function normally and not think about it all the time. If you start having depressive symptoms, go see your doctor for a referral for therapy.
2007-12-02 01:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by oleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still grieving. Let yourself cry, find someone you can talk to about him. Little by little you will feel better, but if you ignore your feelings it will come back to bite you. If you don't have people to talk to, go to a grief support group. Ask at a hospital or the American Cancer Society when and where they are at.
2007-12-02 10:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel my love slit his wrist for making me cry alsa u have to slowly and painfuly get over them and move on
2007-12-02 01:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by titthangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋