i dont know how to stop...cutting?

Question

i've been cutting myself for about 5 years now and i cant stop... i know i shouldnt do it but it's the only thing i can do that makes me stop thinking about what's going on... i feel so peaceful when i do it... i have family problems and i know most people my age do... i was molested twice and it's all i think about... i worried about someone finding out and making me stop but i dont want to... no one knows about it or why i do it.... please help me.... i want to kill myself so bad but i dont want to hurt the ones around me... if it wasnt for them i wouldnt be here right now

i know i need to stop because my cuts are deep and i never stop bleeding... i feel woozy as if i'm about to pass out... so i know this is getting more serious the longer i do it...

i dont like being around people and i dont want anyone to know about what happened to me... i dont want therapy... i do play an instrument and paint and draw but it's not enough i cant stop thinking... i just want everything to just stop.... i'm a private person and i dont talk to people about my problems i'm embarrassed... i cut everywhere on my body legs stomach wrists arms hands... bottom of my feet... i want to stop.... i know if i stopped thinking everything would be better

i'm loving all the help people are giving me and i'm glad that you prayed for me but i'm not religious... i feel when you die that's it....

Answer 1

Find another way to vent. Cutting is a way to release some type of pain or frustration. Try painting, writing about your feelings, singing, dancing, playing an instrument, or playing a sport. Even screaming at the top of your lungs helps. Try anything you can (as long as it's legal and healthy) to stop the urge to cut.

Answer 2

I've been dealing with cutting for 12 years now, and its a very hard habit to get out of. It is possible to improve it, if not get better completely.

One thing to do is set mini-goals for yourself. Make a goal of having two days this week you don't cut, and then keep increasing your goal. Or, you can make your goal to do fewer cuts. When you have the urge to cut, think of something else to do, like snap a thick rubberband on your wrist a few times, take a hot shower, etc.

Talking to people can be a huge help. There is actually an IRC chat dedicated to this subject called BUS (bodies under seige). A link to the chat, and a lot of other great information can be found at:

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

Also try writing down how you feel before you cut yourself. This buys you time, but can also be exhausting in a way that you don't feel the need to cut afterwards. Cutting can be a release of tension, a means of coping, etc, but venting those emotions on paper can be helpful as well. I found myself writing before I cut, and eventually got to the point that 9 out of 10 times, I wouldn't feel the need to cut after I wrote for awhile.

Think of things that make you feel good besides cutting, and try to focus on those thoughts throughout the day when cutting seems like your only option. You have to train yourself to think differently, but it does get easier. Good luck, and stay strong!

Answer 3

this just makes me want to grab you and hug you..why?..I have friends that are thank God ex cutters..you know the things you mention are beautiful..you take care of your family..and seems like you love them..but now it's time to take care of you..do you know who you are? have you discovered that yet?..seriously..I know the sexual abuse has probably robbed you of that..but it is very possible to get it back..but you are the only person that has to make the initiative to get help..anyone that tries to tell you , you can do this on your own is a liar..you need to run from those kinds of people..are you religious at all?..try finding that part of you, you may find that it helps. You may be a private person but obviously this is a public cry for help..sweetie I think you are getting ready for help..if you don't get help..then you are just walking around as if you already are dead. Living is what you want I hope you get the help you need.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Cutting might seem like it helps, but it can end up making you even more miserable. One of my best friends went through some serious problems a couple of years ago and she began cutting. With my help, plus a couple of other friends, she stopped. Please, listen. If you need help, talk to a friend. Tell somebody what happened to you. I know it will be extremely hard, but it's so much better than to continue on hurting yourself. It will get you nowhere. Please tell somebody. Don't let the people that hurt you get away with it!! Get help now.

Answer 6

Please, listen to me. The world can be overwhelming and the cutting behavior may have seemed effective but it is just creating more problems. You are not developing the healthy coping skills you need. You must tell your family. You need really good treatment and maybe even inpatient help. There are many things out there that can help you. you are the victim of a shameless perpetrator. Don't be your own perp now. Instead be your savior.

Answer 7

im so sorry to hear.. :( just believe that things will get better..esp when you are old enough to get away from the things that hurt you or have hurt you..as far as being molested..i think you need to seek group therapy..you dont want to feel alone and meeting others that went through the same thing you have will help out soo much. i wish you the best of luck

Answer 8

if you can, try to take a vacation, travel around the world, escape from your normal life & see the beauty that the world has to offer.
if you can't, try to get involved in an organization that will keep u fr. thinking, an organization that helps others less fortunate (like Make a Wish or anything to do with Africa), it will make u realize how lucky u are compared to these people. if you think about, millions of people around the world who are terminally ill or have no home, no family, no food, who would do anything to be you. cherish what you have, stop abusing yourself.

Answer 9

*deep breath* ok...its been about 5 years for me too. the only REAL way to stop...is to WANT to stop. try reading a book called bodily harm by karen conterio. it changed my life. you know...it gets worse over time...one day...it might be too bad. i still wish i hadnt stopped...but you know what...ive lost that high...but ive ganed my life back...and i am happier. you described me in your question...i was molested and i am very private. ive been where you are...so trust me...it sucks and its hard. If YOU want to get better...and you actively cutting, try going to safe alternatives...its about a month wait to get in and its a therapy program that lasts a month. i knwo you dont want to go to therapy but it helps to talk abotu things. if your not willing to take the steps necessary to get better...than you never will. its jsut one month out of your life and i iwll change you forever. there is a possibility of relapsing, but if YOU reallywant to get your life back...cutting is liek a drug it takes over your relationships, your cares, your life...cutting is more difficlt to quit than heroine and ciggarets combined...its proven. you have to be srong...something that you have not been for 5 years now...its hard to do that...thats why you need to get support from a therapist and your family and friends...even if it is embarassing to admit. good luck. if you have any questions my email is [e-mail]

Answer 10

I know who can help you and cure you 100%.
Please stop cutting now, no more from now on.
Remember my words they will help you.
You must take full control of your body.
Be strong.
Believe in Jesus Christ, ask Him to forgive you for all the cutting and all the sins, and ask Him to save you.
Then you talk to Jesus Christ just like you would to a regular person.
Ask Jesus to help you forgive everyone who hurt you and forget everything they did to you.
And ofcourse ask Jesus Christ to fill your heart with His Joy, Peace and Love.
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I prayed for you, God Bless you :)