ok here it is, I've been dating this guy fro like 2 years naw and i am maddle in love with him. The problem with it is that my family dont like him. Its gottin so bad that i cant say his name in my houes without pissing somebody off. I've been hanging out with him behinde there backs, like i'll tell then im going to take a test after school but hange out with him insted. because if they new they woul freak!!! What do i do?
2007-12-01 16:08:55 · 18 answers · asked by this is bull shit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i think you left out why your family doesnt like him. is it for no reason or is it because there is a good reason. for the most part if your family doesnt like some one its for a good reason. try to get them use to the idea of him just being your friend and then maybe they will warm up to the idea of you being with him.also dont every say anything bad about him to any one in your family cuz then they will just use it against your relationship.
2007-12-01 16:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by xoxoxgrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have to ask how old are you?
Honestly you live in their home and go to school so I am going to GUESS you are teen or pre teen.
That being the case you really need to listen to them.
Believe me they while you think when you are a teen have the answers and know what is best do not always know or have them Your parents may not always be right either BUT I can bet they are saying it for a really good reason.
Believe me Been there done that and I can assure you My parents were right every time
Too bad I did not listen and well they were not around when I realized it for me to say I was sorry
Guys will come and Go
Parents and Family are always there.
Talk to them see what they are seeing. be respectful and do not be confrontational just be honest and mature about it than look back at what they say and I can bet in time you will see it too
2007-12-02 00:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by mylilsims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not know what real 'love' is. I can tell by your question. Love is when all is well 'around you' not in termoil with your family and you have to lie.. This does not make for a good relationship. Lie's have to be covered up with another lie, etc... I think you get the picture. Parents are older and wiser. You may think they don't know anything, but, they haven't lived longer than you and learned nothing. Drop the guy and wise up. Start with learning how to spell and using correct grammar. This could be a start for a good relationship with the right guy your parents will like. I speak from experience.
2007-12-02 00:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah forbidden love,very tasty. However the facts are that the family is almost always right.
Try this,put yourself in their place,think about what they are saying. Try to be open minded,do they offer reasons for feeling the way they do? Is it possible that they are right? Can you offer any good reasons why a whole bunch of people(who most probably love you very much) would all be wrong? All at once?
Try to find someone who you respect(a teacher, a councilor,a clergyman,any person whose word you respect) and discuss it with this situation with them.
I can tell you this much in good faith,what feels like "madly in love" now, is not at all what love really is. I don't know your age,but if your family is still feeding you(if you still are living at home) then you owe them respect enough to consider their feelings and opinions.
One last thing,sneaking around behind the backs of the people who are providing for you is the wrong way to have a relationship,with any one. You admit that you are lying to the people who really love you,it's just not right. If this guy is so great why is he letting you do this to yourself and your family?
2007-12-02 00:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by PeeTee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. This kind of thing happens often. You do not state your age, but I would imagine that you are fairly young and just excited to feel like you are madly in love.
I can only guess, but I imagine that your family sees some character traits about this guy that are not considered desirable. You probably see them too, but have opted to disregard them since you feel like you love him.
Your best bet is to take this very slowly. Maybe even tell him to come to the house and discuss the situation with your parents, and possibly prove to them that they are wrong about him.
If he cares about you, he would be willing to do this so he could see you without getting YOU in trouble. If he is not "man" enough to do this, or doesn't think you are worth the effort, then you really need to sit back and take a look at why you are madly in love with someone who is not in love with you.
2007-12-02 00:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by IMHO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r in such an age where u find ur partner is rite n ur parents r wrong. It does not mean that ur friend is not good but may be ur parents are not in favor because it will harm ur studies and normal life. If u realy like the guy then keep the relation and also keep in mind the reputaion n emotion n feelings of ur parent who neger give u wrong advice and can never c u falling in wrong path. Keep smiling and do the best.Good luck
2007-12-02 00:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by shan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, i was in this exact same situation a few years ago. The best thing to do is to just leave him. No body is worth losing your family over. You have no idea if you are going to end up marrying him or something. You situation is probably not going to get better; your family is just trying to protect you. The only way the this is going to go is the point of hatred from your family. Don't put yourself in that situation, it is not worth it.
2007-12-02 00:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by Zachary I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, so you need to talk to your family and tell them how you feel about him and if you really do love him than your family needs to understand that. If you do not want your relationship with your boyfriend to get more awkward and separated than you should talk to your family without him knowing. It is best for him and your relationship if he doesnt know that your family has a problem with him. Hope that helps. Good Luck!
2007-12-02 00:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by IvanV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? If your under 18, it's your parent's house and they make the rules, so fess up you have been seeing him and be done with it. If your over 18 tell them he's in your life, and they can either deal with it or walk out of your life.
2007-12-02 00:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you were to be honest with yourself, you'd realize that the family that knows you and loves you sees something in him that you're denying.
I've done that before, and I'm a grownup. Trust me, he won't be in the picture a year from now, but your family will still be there for you.
Don't be stupid.
2007-12-02 00:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋