This is something that is weighing on my mind...
I've always been extremely careful and have used condoms 100% of the time with previous boyfriends. Now I've fallen in love with someone new.
He hates condoms because he will lose his excitement in the time it takes to put one on. Unfortunately, because I let us try without a few times I don't think he'll be willing or understanding about my wanting to use them again.
I am normally a very cautious person and a worrier! We are supposed to be in a monogamous relationship and he calls me his girlfriend but I worry...if he did cheat on me (and that sort of thing happens all of the time in this crazy world, right?) he could put me at risk for a serious STD...this makes me so nervous!! How do I build the trust to not worry about him cheating and exposing me to something scary?
2007-12-01 16:07:35 · 6 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust can only be strengthen by time.
tell him that you prefer to have safe sex for the first 6 months of your relationship. and that if he really cared about you, he will agree.
if he does not agree, he really does not care about you.
dump him, and move on with your life.
2007-12-01 16:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Brad456 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more important to be protected than not. So if your bf is unwilling to use condoms and understand your concerns, then maybe you guys shouldn't have sex at all. You will regret what you did if something wrong does happen. So, think twice about the consequences that might happen.
2007-12-01 16:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately i've learned that you can't trust someone unless your married to them, and even then, it's iffy.... if he loses 'his excitement" in the 3 seconds it takes to put on a condom, i think he has deeper issues than condom use. I know plenty of men who don't love condoms, but still have a fine time with them on. put your foot down, condoms or no sex, period.
2007-12-01 17:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by kimmyg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could make him get tests for stds all the time,
but if your in a relationship with this guy - epically if your sleeping with him you should trust him.
If you feel better with using a condom use a condom then,
don't let him pressure you.
2007-12-01 16:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain it to him. he should wear a condom even if it isn't as great as it is without. it is safe for you AND for him.
2007-12-01 16:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should have asked yourself this before you even had sex. I can't really give much advice now...
2007-12-01 16:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋