My girlfriend??

Question

what are some things i can do to get my girlfriend to be more responsive...i mean i try to flirt with her and stuff but she just kinda sits there...i have talked to her to make sure everything is ok and she tells me it is but it seems like she never wants to do anything even if its just me having my arm around her while we are watching tv... what is going on?

probably should have said this earlier but we've been dating for over two years so shyness and all that other stuff is definatly not the issue

we go places all the time...we rarely just hang

Answer 1

If she's just using you, you can always get a girl who's more responsive. Be strong about what you want.

"Take a look at my girlfriend, she's the only one I got.
Not much of a girlfriend, I never seem to get a lot...."
Supertramp - Breakfast In America (1979)

Answer 2

It all depends. If you two have been dating for awhile and this has been going on, maybe she wants out. It's very unfortunate but its true that she may be be thinking of a break up. If you just started dating recently, maybe she just doesn't feel completely comfortable around you yet, but that's normal. Give her time.
Girl's love when a guy will make them feel special and try to make them feel like their the center of universe! If your flirting isn't catching her attention, and she isn't willing go anywhere, trick her into it! Surprise her one night with special (secret) plans. Dress up a little and bring her flowers (girls love that) and take her some where nice, but in your budget. When you show her how much you mean to her she'll feel more comfortable with your flirting and your arm around her.
A source of the problem could be issues from past relationships. She may have trust or abandonment issues. Be extra sweet with her and she'll learn that she doesn't have to worry about that stuff with you.
Last of all, another source of the problem could be a uhhh...'Once a month'...kinda thing which may be whats setting her on edge.This only applies if she's not always like this.Hope I helped! !~Bye4Now~!

Answer 3

Sounds like either she is very shy or just plain scared of you? Maybe the best thing for you to do is to be straight with her... By this I mean ask her the question you are asking the rest of America. Why do you not respond to me? Have I done something to offend you? This has been bothering me and I thought maybe if I asked you it would help? I find it allways to be up front and not waste my energy wondering . At least if there is something wrong then you have a chance to make things right. Good luck

Answer 4

Maybe she is just shy. If this is her first boyfriend, maybe she doesn't know what to do or how to act or maybe she's a little afraid if she is new to dating. The first few dates are pretty scary. Try doing something interactive like a game of Scrabble or a walk (casually holding hands) or go for ice cream. Try something that will encourage light, fun conversation. Smile at her - with your mouth as well as your eyes. Occasionally touch her arm, hand or shoulder lightly and in fun.

Answer 5

Talk to her about how you feel-- say "How come you don't like it when I put my arm around you, & flirt, & kiss you, & stuff?"

If she's really young, she could just be shy & inexperienced.

Or, if you guys haven't been going out together for very long, it's possible that she wants to get to know you better, first.

Or, she may not be attracted to you, but doesn't know how to end the relationship/ is hoping her attraction to you will grow, in time.

Or, she may have emotional issues that make it difficult for her to experience physical intimacy.

The thing is, no one knows what is going on with her, but her; so, talk to her about it, in a non-threatening, supportive way (don't get angry, or aggressive, or act pushy) and if you can work through the problem together, then work through it.

-good luck!

Answer 6

It seems as if she may be bashful , or maybe she isn't ready for the kind of attention that you are willing to give her .How long have you known her and what kind of relationship did you have before you got together as a couple? How old is she? It all depends, maybe you should back off a little on the romance until you see signs that she is ready for it. Perhaps you should let her make the first move.Are you involved with other girls? maybe she (if you are )she doesn't trust you. How much are you into her maybe she isn't the right one for you.

Answer 7

There may be stressful things going on in her life at work, home or school. Just be there for her if she needs to talk. But tell her how you feel. And how you are trying hard, and even if she says nothing is wrong tell her that you want to know and you will help her by listening. Ask how her day was, even if you already knew what she did.

Answer 8

Sounds like she is losing interest. Or is guilty of something. You never want to have to convince someone to be with you but maybe if you tried mixing it up a little. Do something different and exciting that gets her excited about life in general. That way even if things don't end up working out with her you will know that you have done everything you can to make it work.

Answer 9

It seems like she's just not that into you. Sorry. You might tell her that you feel that she's just not into you and if there's something wrong you'd like an opportunity to fix it. That's about all you can do. It may be that she's found someone else, or that she's become disenchanted with you for some unknown reason. Either way you'll want to talk to her rather than to folks on Y!A.

Answer 10

She might want to break up with you but just doesnt know how to why dont you get her soem roses and her favorite chocolate if she is allergic to chocolate take her on a fancy date with flowers at the table then while you re there ask her what is going on if she breaks up with you its ok you will find some one else. but i hope she doesnt do that are you sure you just arent being the type of boy friend she needs

Good luck with her.