my boyfriend and i are 19 and we want to have sex but i just really want to wait until marriage... we've been together for 4 years and i'm starting to think that i might burst with sexual tension lol
do you have any advice? what can we do? or should i just give up on the whole sex after marriage thing? its not a religious thing for me, its just that i feel its right... but give me your opinions
thanks : )
2007-12-01 15:04:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"lee lee"... he has never cheated on me.. he never will
i know it sounds like i wouldnt know because how could i be so sure
but i really do know
2007-12-01 15:13:50 · update #1
ohhhh noooo, we are QUITE attracted to each other. as i said, we are bursting with sexual tension. i'm starting to think that i should just let all of my inhibitions go and do what my heart tells me... i am not even christian.
2007-12-01 15:22:24 · update #2
we do not live together...
2007-12-01 15:32:12 · update #3
You are being held back by Christian guilt here- and you are not religious! So, go ahead and have the sex- lots of it. You are only denying yourself pleasure, joy, and a better, more fulfilling relationship with your man. And also- it is unhealthy not to have sex. You are putting yourself at risk for many forms of cancer, as is he. Have some freaky sex asap, and go for it every chance you get!
2007-12-01 15:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by shadowlands99 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
U what?? If u don't have an open mind, just don't bother reading what I written! U mean u have lived together for 4 years starving each other of sex? OMG! And he is ok with that? What a joke. U are living like brother and sister NOT bf and gf, do u really love him??
There are certain things which lovers do, and there is no doubt, sex tops the list, if u have a different opinion, then u need help, seriously.
Am NOT saying that it is wrong not to have sex till marriage but let's be realistic. The poor guy must be living in hell since u live together when he can't touch u for some wierd excuse.
U are being selfish and dishonest NOT just to the poor guy but to yourself as well. Don't u think that that could be one of the reasons why he hasn't married u yet?? 4 yrs is such a long time. My opinion.
2007-12-01 15:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by badboy22bs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, four years is a long time. However...whether religious conviction or not, waiting to have sex makes sex after marriage all the better. It won't be something you've tried before, it will be a truly wonderful experience. If you find yourself getting into a bad situation (meaning...about to have sex) find something else to do fast. Ice skating, going to a movie, go out to dinner, take a hike, whatever. If you personally feel it's better to wait, you're probably right. No chance of unwanted pregnancy, guilt, and if for some reason the relationship doesn't last, there won't be the disgusting feeling of "I slept with that person...and now we're no longer seeing each other."
My advice is to simply not get involved in the world of "Sex feels good, so it is good! Screw like bunnies!" and stick to what you feel is right. When you're married, you'll be glad you waited.
2007-12-01 15:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tony Graff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things a woman can give: 1. Protection 2. Handy with machines (fix things) 3. Jar opener 4. Emotional security 5. Wisk you away for an exciting/ romantic adventure 6. Support you emotionally when life sucks 7. Safety I work out at a gym three days a week and I am 6' tall. I have taken martial arts and I don't need protection.
2016-05-27 04:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in not having sex before marriage, period. This is what the Bible says. Rather you think it is not religious or not, it really is, and you are right. So many times when a girl has sex before marriage the boy looses respect for her. Why take that chance? It is not worth it. What would you do if you became with child? Your years of going together is a very short time in your young life. Talk to your pastor, doctor or even your parents as they as well as most of the population have been through what you are feeling. Between them you will find out what works for you and when you find Mr. Right for sure, you will have a better chance for a happy and lasting marriage. If your 19 year old boy friend is Mr. Right he should agree with you and wait. If not, he is not worthy of you. Look for a better mate. God Bless.
2007-12-01 15:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by Drew W 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lets get this out of the way first :I was always into my research and never had time to seek out love.This might sound strange coming from a 34 yr old virgin, but I would ask you why you dont want to have sex with him. If this is because you do not feel sexually attracted to him, thats fine. If its because you do not trust him to be so intimate, thats fine. But, if you think carefully, you will probably realize that you are denying him and yourself sex simply because of religion or some way of thought; say immorality or something. Do you really feel you should deprive yourself of bodily pleasures simply because of some figments of pure imagination?
2007-12-01 15:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are plenty of other fun things to do besides having sex. When you find yourselves in that situation where it seems to be the only thing to do, get out of it. Get out, go for a walk, talk. My boyfriend and I are waiting, too. Good luck!
P.S. Spending some alone time with yourself might also help, just a thought...
2007-12-01 15:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should not give up your values at ALL! if waiting is what is important to you then you should wait. there are other things to do besides just kissing. you could take it to the next step sexually without giving up on your values.
if that doesn't apeal to you then you should try thinking about what you want out of the relationship. do you WANT to marry him? can you see yourself marrying him and waiting until you are to do anything?
if you love him and he loves you maybe its time to go further in your relationship, whatever that means for you.
good luck!
2007-12-01 15:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by whazup3112 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him then I say wait til marriage, that way you'll know that he married you for better reasons than sex. If you start having sex then you will mostly likely have to continue so just wait.
2007-12-01 15:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by Survivor 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well,
I feel that you should wait.
Because it will not be right, it will feel right.
And Not to be religious,
But If You Wait,
God will have something better in your relationship then you do now.
So i think save it.
But its Totally Up to you.
But yet,
Follow You HEART not your MIND..
2007-12-01 15:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋