Would you recommend a long distance relationship? Me and the guy have the same interests but i don't know.

Question

This guy i've known for about half a year on myspace.. well we talk about everyday and really enjoy each others company. We get along and have the same interests. He is much older than me lol and I'm still in high school, though. I was plannin on movin to where he lives for college since it's the city of opputunities, and i will be able to see him or possibly live with him? But is it a good idea to communicate with him for a year before i can visit him in person? Is it worth it? I really want to kno because me and him are already gettin serious.

Answer 1

I've been in one for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in US. All i can say is that a long distance relationship is hard and that it can be harder when you havent' met. The relationship takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty so if you BOTH can do that then you will be off to a great start. I dont' normally see age as a issue, my bf and i were only 16 when we started (we met in person) and now we are almost 21, but i don't think you should rush in too fast if there is a big age difference the important thing is to get your education done and be able to depend on yourself. It can be worth it if both people really care about on another. Just talk and make sure you are on the same page as far as what you want out of the relationship. Email me if you have more questions. good luck


Royalty2 : those rules are stereotypes of a LDR. I can tell you that i have never ever cheated on my bf and he has never cheated on me we take our relationship ver seriously. LDRs are just like normal ones except that we have some distance. Those who do cheat are ones that can not handle distances. And my bf and i know eachother very well and our communication is better than some of the couple we know that are together all the time.

Answer 2

U can only be in a long distance relationship of u know the rules to long distance relationships.

1. The both of u (him probably more than u or maybe not....) will be able to personal partners whenever. its being unfaithful but when in a long distance relationship its easy to get away with it.

2. The connection will not be the same long distance as it could be if he was actually there.

3. UNFAITHFUL!! I know i already put this rule down but it is so important most couples in long distance cannot stand becuz of lust and passion which cannot be achieved when the both of you are eight states away from each other.

I dont mean to sound mean but i have to keep it real.

Answer 3

uh.. no. Long distance relationships dont work usually- speaking fromexperiance. There are too many fish in the sea, plus you are in high school.. if he is much older, you should be asking yourself why he hasnt found someone closer to his age- possible reasons: 1. he likes them young- eww.. or 2. he doesnt appeal to his age group because he is Lacking something... Tell you what you should come up with One positive reason why it would be ok for a older guy to like a younger girl in high school that he met on line. I smell a creep, and No girl deserves a creep.

Answer 4

I've been in a long distance relationship for four years. It works just fine, we make sure to see each other as often as possible and talk at least once a day on the phone.

It can be done, because we're moving in together soon and are making plans to get married.

Answer 5

Let me ask you this:

Would you want your younger sister to meet some older guy on myspace and have her think about getting serious or moving in with a total stranger? Or moving to the town the stranger lives in?

You know as well as I do that too many of those guys who hit on high school girls are perverts.

They let you go on and on about what you like, then they tell you they are into that too. They lead you on and make you think they are nice guys. In reality, you are probably talking to some 48 year-old psychotic fat guy who lives with his mother in a dirty little run-down house, and has some poor, tortured girl chained to some filthy cot in the basement.

Forget about this myspace guy. Go out with guys your own age. Go to a college near your home, and date guys who come to your home to pick you up, and your folks have a chance to meet them.

You know what they call high school girls who trust myspace guys?

VICTIMS!

Answer 6

BE VERY VERY CAREFUL! Give it more time! AND FOUND OUT AS MUCH AS YOU CAN!!!!
I would do a back ground check on him! You said he was older.....how much? and think about it...if he is more than a couple of years older than you....what is his problem? why does he have to talk to someone who is still in high school and not closer to his age? Don't get me wrong, sometimes age isn't a issue, but sometimes it is! Would you be willing to let your parents meet him? if not...there is a problem, but hey, it's just my opinion!!!! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Miss,
Long distance relationship normally don't work out. While writing back and forth and occasional phone calls fill the void, it really does the relationship very little help. But, that is my opinion only. I would advise against it, but in the end, the final choice is yours.

Answer 8

I think you already made up your mind. But long distance relationships are not worth it. Take it from a girl who had a boyfriend in Mexico. Needless to say I dont' live there. Really think about it...

Answer 9

How much older? I would say to give it a try and meet him if you are in college in the same time but don't go out of your way. Wouldn't be thinking of moving in with him just yet - see how it goes.

Answer 10

Absolutely not. Long distance relstionships are SO hard. Not to mention that fact you guys know each other through myspace...It's really not a good idea.