last night my boyfriend and i lost our virginity to each other. He was very sweet and the same as he used to after it but today he was just out of it. i'm afraid he's going to leave me. what's going on?
2007-12-01 14:20:08 · 24 answers · asked by s2 xo Dana 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its just akward that u've done it for the 1st time but u need to tell him how you feel and what your thinking
2007-12-01 14:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the first time you guys saw each other after the act.It is possible he is shy,is still on cloud nine,can't believe he did it ,and thinking that you are both no longer virgins.In any case,talk to him in a casual tone and let him know your feelings----joy, pleasure,anger, disappointment,elation.Now that the pressure of the first sexual act is out of the way , you can now focus on your relationship and doing everything in your power to build it up, make it better, and the type of romance you want it to be .You now have a unique opportunity for success here.I hope you take it.
2007-12-01 14:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he'll dump you. You're probably making it out to be something it isn't because you guys have had sex. Now you've given him the only thing in life you can never get back... it worries you that he'll leave and you're just a number. Don't stress yourself. Sex attaches humans to one another like you would not believe. (You don't see such behavior in the animal kingdom.) With women, it makes us feel like this could be the one, we think of children, our lives, everything. Not to say guys don't, but it isn't as dramatic so to speak. It makes us insecure about our bodies and esteem. You could try talking to him, but dont wig and get too emotional. He's probably thinking the very same thing you are.
2007-12-01 14:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Brittny M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not judging the deed, but IT is a big deal for guys too, despite what the movies depict.
He is probably just as worried about the ramifications of it as you are...especially if he felt he should wait until he was married.
Just check-in with him and give him a little space if he wants it. If you both feel it was a mistake, then you should both decide you will wait until taking further steps.
2007-12-01 14:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by shaffner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him ask him whats going on. when you lose your virginity there are are different feelings going on between the time of doing it and after and most boys just don't know how to handle it . so all i can say is just talk to him.
2007-12-01 14:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by miss oh so sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah the day i lost mine i was out of it as well, like i was in a euphoric high. Its natural. He feels like he just discovered the theory of everything.
2007-12-01 14:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually don't worry about it. me and my ex had the same thing. but we didn't break up over sex. well i waited for 3 years before me and him done it. hopefully you just didn't give it up in few months. and its the 1st time, give him some time. and see how he acts towards you, if his starting to avoid you then you know what that means, he got what he wanted and his looking for someone else. but if his not avoiding you and still talking to you then don't worry, just talk about it.
2007-12-01 14:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt that he will leave you...maybe he was just thinking about what happened, not to be mean but maybe he needed to wait awhile longer....who knows maybe he's just having an off track day or sumthing happened. Im sure it has nothing to do with you.
2007-12-01 14:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by SoAwesome28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got the goods--typical boy looking for sex--now that he got you--he wants to move on. Should have seen that coming--it happens to teens in the emotional turmoil of dating--so let him go and next time--keep your pants on.
2007-12-01 14:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He most likely wasnt a "virgin" to begin with...... It's gonna hurt like hell, but you'll get over it...... You opened his "Pandora's Box" and now he has to stick everything moving.
Kiss Kiss
Ps
Keep it to yourself next time
2007-12-01 14:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by B.B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are weird. . . mine does the same things sometimes, i've been with him for 4 yrs and still havent figured it out. . . i wouldnt worry about it hun .
2007-12-01 14:23:57 · answer #11 · answered by Hard Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋