Maybe I'm just too picky, but I always hear about these women that go out and stay w/guys that cheat on them, act like total jerks, and everything else. Do they not think they deserve better than that? I know there are plenty of men out there that don't cheat. I am single right now and feel extreme loneliness at times, but I wouldn't put up w/that for a second. I definitely don't think it's worth that just to have someone around.
2007-12-01 13:46:27 · 31 answers · asked by Smiles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mainly two reasons:
First: No one wants to be alone and these type of women dont believe that they can find or deserve a good man so they settle for anything.
Second: Society pressure--society makes us think that we are nothing without men, so we RUSH to find someone, anyone to make us "complete"
2007-12-01 13:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Soul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just a theory, sometimes the guy is good enough to hang out and do fun things with, sure he's not great b/f or marriage material. Basically, sometimes a man who's just okay is better than no one in your life - he'll do until the right person comes along.
If a girl is experiencing extreme loneliness then that's not healthy, maybe she's too picky, it's time to lower the maybe unrealistic standards a bit, cause there's guys out there who may not be your exact type, but will do for some pleasant dates.
2007-12-01 13:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hurrah! It's is fantastic to hear from a young woman who knows what she wants and feels comfortable enough not to put up with less than satisfactory men. I too, have found myself wondering on many occasions why a girl would allow herself to be in a situation with a ratbag guy. Low self-worth is definitely a factor, but sometimes it's the extroverted girl with tonnes of guys interested in her who stays with the ratbag guy. Sometimes girls just can't say 'no' to a relationship and would prefer to be unhappy in a relationship rather than on their own. This is not desirable, but we've all seen our girlfriends in these situations and know isn't until afterwards- when she wakes up & smells the coffee- that she can see how unhealthy her relationship was.
2007-12-01 13:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Richos 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe because if they're not in a relationship they might feel like something's wrong with them. Like all these young girls on here who are 12, 13, 14, and 15 years old asking, "I'm (age) and I've never had a boyfriend! Am I normal?"
It's sad, really. Where is all this "pressure" to have a boyfriend coming from? Are we doing this to ourselves? Whoever told us it isn't normal to wait and grow up first and have standards that we need to apply to ourselves, as well as our potential mates? All this jumping into the pool without knowing how to swim -- no wonder we have no confidence; we don't allow ourselves to become independent women--we just care about uggs and "am i pretty?"
(Of course, I'm generalizing; don't mind me.)
2007-12-01 13:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
those are the women who think a bad man is better than no man. They think that they need to be in a relationship to be "complete" or to be seen as an adult. They are so horrified and frightened at the thought of being alone and unable to even imagine that they could be happy or have a full life alone, that they would rather be miserable and with anything male.
2007-12-01 13:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's mostly a person's make-up ... It's just who they are. People are so different. Some people (male and female) are so miserable walking life's path alone that they will settle for someone/anyone just so the spot beside them is filled. That leads to hastily formed relationships and rushed marriages. To walk alone until someone worthy comes along means that you are good friends with yourself and enjoy your own company. Also, some people's self esteem is so low that they set the bar too low. They feel that anyone is better than no one. That's so sad.
There's an old proverb that says, "It is far better to walk alone than to travel with an unpleasant companion."
2007-12-01 13:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Just Hazel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They know that they need a boyfriend for all the dances and social events at school. They usually go after someone in higher grade, like a senior, so every year they can feel that they're not missing out on anything and having self-esteem issues.
2007-12-01 13:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by stale mate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i def agree with you and feel the same way... ive always wondered that too and i think that most girls that do put up with that crap just want to feel like they always have someone, and think that that person is about as good as it gets..which is sad. Or else some maybe are just afraid to leave that relationship.... it prolly just varies depending on the person and the relationship!
2007-12-01 13:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by maria 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hm. People don't like to spend their lives alone. They just don't. Also, women, a lot of them anyway, think they like "bad boys" until they have a bad boy, and then they know better... until the next time, anyway.
So 2 reasons, kinda.
2007-12-01 13:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Vincent Van Jessup 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most want to feel loved by someone outside the family if they have clear thoughts.To seek love outside of their kin,which is morally right.
2007-12-01 21:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋