I am a single mom...?

Question

I am a single mom with a six-year-old son. My son was 3 when I got divorced and since then I have had no boyfriend. With my son getting older, I am getting busier and busier with his homework and my jobs to do. I have no time to go out to meet anybody and it never happens to me to meet anybody even at work or anywhere else. I really feel that my son needs a male model in his life. I know that not everybody that I meet can be a good male model for my son but meeting somebody never happens to me even. Sometimes when my son goes to bed, I feel so alone. I really need a company. My friends suggest to me to go out more but first of all I am too busy with my son and secondly, I have no idea where I can go. Bars?! forget it. Family places? all the people in those places are already couples. I really don't know what to do.

Answer 1

My best advice is to keep going places that you would normally go. Once you do find a guy, it's more likely that he'll be compatible with you and your lifestyle. Sure there are more families at the park, but one of these days a single dad is going to come by, and you can start up a conversation with him just like any other parents.

You could try a single parent's club, or going to a larger church where there are lots of different people to meet (if you're religious that is). You could also try continuing your education over the summer to get to know more people who are respectable and hard working. Community college classes can be really fun and interesting, find one you think you will enjoy. Just make sure you aren't going to something where you know it's just going to be girls (like a quilting class or something).

Another option is trying to find a boys and girls club or a big brothers big sisters organization for your child to be involved in. Explain your situation and that you really want your son to have a male rolemodel. Or put up a flyer at local colleges, and interview some canidates to be a big brother/mothers helper/babysitter. Find someone responsible, and let them come over while you're doing errands, or just workin around the house.

I agree, the most important thing is to find someone in the right places. Bringing home a guys you're uncomfortable with is worse for your six year old than nothing at all.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Your using your son as an excuse to Not find companionship. Look in the local paper for singles and where to meet. Try a church. You sure don't want to meet someone at a bar. You must get out to look to find. They are not going to just drop in your lap like rain drops.

Answer 3

I normally want absolutely NOTHING to do with dating services: Unlike you, I am happily married.

But seriously, you are right about needing more adult companionship- not just a man. Have you checked something like Itsjustlunch.com? Get a babysitter for your son, and go out to meet people.

Good luck, Honey.

Answer 4

The grocery store, the park. Places to go that you can take your son with you. If a guy asks you out when your son is with you, he knows what he is getting into.