Ok.Right now,my ex and i aren't speaking.She called me yesturday,and didn't say anything.If I call her back,I would be giving in.If I don't call,I would be showing who has control in the relationship.What should I do?
2007-12-01 13:17:10 · 15 answers · asked by josh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay...you're in control. Of what? Losing your woman to win your point doesn't seem to make sense.
2007-12-01 13:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One, it shouldn't be about who has control. Two, having said that you can still call her and show that you are in control by taking control of the situation, not calling is more like stubborn than control. Either way, it isn't healthy to let things go without trying to resolve them first. Good Luck.
2007-12-01 21:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by energy-101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control has no place in a relationship. That is a sign of a negative and abusive situation, no matter who is trying to control the other. You should be working problems out together or at least talking about them, no matter who calls the other one. Stop being childish.
2007-12-01 21:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships always go through a period of adjustment and a power struggle. You are evidently at that stage, since you are afraid of "showing her who has control"...the mature and committed part of the relationship comes when the power struggle ends and you both feel that compromise is important and that each person's goals and wishes have equal value. Many relationships never get to that stage, they falter and die because of the desire for control.
2007-12-01 21:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games. There doesn't have to be one person in "control"....its give and take. Concede on a trivial point. It will make her feel like the boss and you won't lose any "man points". Suck it up, tell her you were wrong, even if you weren't. You can win on the next battle.
2007-12-01 21:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and find out what she wanted. Sheesh! Seems to me this constant struggle for control is why you have an "ex" in the first place.
2007-12-01 21:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by ms_beehayven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about who is in control. If you chose to give in, haven't you exercised control over the situation? If you two get into power struggles, you won't last long!
2007-12-01 21:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by LoB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and you will still have control if you say "Let's just be friends", but only say that if you ended on good terms.
2007-12-01 21:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by hannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your ex, but you still want to be friends, just call her and let her know that if she doesn't want to talk, don't call...If she can't respect that, and continues to call without saying anything, remember that she is your ex for a reason...and just let it go.
2007-12-01 21:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by SND123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more mature than her and call her back. This way you still have control.
2007-12-01 21:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by ~ luv sis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋