There is this boy at my school that is one of my best friends. He was talking to one of my other best friends, and told her that he is going to break up with his current girlfriend, and maybe ask me out. I don't really want to go out with him, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. What do I do!?!?
2007-12-01 13:05:04 · 22 answers · asked by Maky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is breaking up with his current girlfriend, because he doesn't feel the same way as he did...and he also said that he can talk to me better than his current girlfriend, and it would just be awkward, because he's like such a good friend
2007-12-01 13:17:10 · update #1
also, my friend wasn't supposed to tell me, but we tell eachother everything, so I don't want to give him any clues that she told me
2007-12-01 13:19:39 · update #2
I think you should ask the friend who gave you this information to do you a HUGE favor and tell him that she know for a fact the your only interest in him is as a good friend. She can even say that friends last longer then boyfriends. GoodLuck!
2007-12-01 13:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he likes you more than he likes his other girlfriend...which in the case where you don't like him anywhere near as much as he likes you, it is quite unfortunate for everyone. One way or another, I hate to admit it, someone is going to get hurt here. Chances are, he will probably have some regrets after he breaks it off with the other girl, and if *she* finds out why he broke up with her, she may get mad at him AND you. So you might want to buckle down and prepare for the worst. But no matter what happens, make sure you are to the point with how you feel. The last thing you want is him holding onto an idea that something could happen between the two of you...because that would hurt him even more. Just tell him that you will be his friend always but you just can't feel the same way that he does for you. Good luck!
2007-12-01 21:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight out the gate with this guy. If you do not want to be his girlfriend you better state that prior before he breaks up with his current girlfriend. Just let him know that he is just a friend. If he is in the friend zone than he should understand the rule that nothing will get further than that. If he respects you as a person.
2007-12-01 21:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by vanallenbelt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I can definitely remember when this happened to me. It sucks, but it's a fact of life. Sometimes you have to hurt feelings a bit. :( What I would do is, if he asks you out, tell him that you see him as a really good friend and that you feel by going out with him, it would make the friendship all awkward, because it usually does. I've gone out with good friends of mine and it just doesn't really work romantically because you're used to being just friends and taking a huge step just doesn't feel right.
I'm sorry.
2007-12-01 21:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mike C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a suggestion, before he asks you out, tell him how much you enjoy being his friend, without all the complications boyfriend/girlfriend relationships bring. Let him know how much you value his friendship and are so glad neither one of you wants to put that in danger by a romantic entanglement. Best to you.
2007-12-01 21:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Cecil n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention ages here, but as you mature, you will find that honesty is indeed the best policy. It's better to hurt his feelings a little bit now, than a year or two down the road. Everything that goes around comes around. Get your own boyfriend.
2007-12-01 21:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mezmarelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words sometimes get changed or misunderstood when they get passed from person to person. You mentioned "maybe" ask you out. But maybe he won't ask you out. Don't go if he asks you. When i was in school, i would rather hear the truth. I got talked into some blind dates when i was in school and both of us would be miserable. Don't give him false hopes and just move on. Have you talked to your parents about this?
2007-12-01 21:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by redbass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him. Just tell him that you like him as a friend and that is all. And that you don't want to go out with him. But you still want to be friends. If he is a true friend he will understand and if he is not a true friend he wont understand. good luck
2007-12-01 21:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by jeffcowboy69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. It shouldn't hurt him. I mean, all you have to say is that you like being friends, and don't think you're ready to go on to the next step.
2007-12-01 21:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sammeh Cat X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just use the classic line that you just want to be friends and that you think that if you take your relationship to the next level that it won't work out and there is no use ruining a friendship
2007-12-01 21:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Emily M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋