Urgent Help! Pls anyone...How to Deal when someone very dear and close is very ill?

Question

My Dad had a sudden relapse 3 days ago and was admitted immediateyl.He has had a major operation last yr after he was diagnosed with colon cancer.He done chemo too.He lsot almost 6-7 kg only for the past 3 days.Its really heart breaking whenever I saw him in great pain.He is able to speak alittle bit but honestly my siblings n myself really fears the worst.He is very dear to us.best.Right now I m very lost, couldnt focus and sleep well .Honestly I feared i will hv a nervous breakdown ;soon totally dont hv a clue on how to deal with it cos its just too much.Can anyone tell/advise me pls ?

Answer 1

PLEASE YOU MUST PAUSE AND TAKE A DEEP BREATH THIS HAPPENED TO ME A WEEK AGO WITH MY MOM SHE WAS REALLY BAD BUT NOW SHE'S OK SO PLEASE HAVE SOME FAITH AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT IF YOU NEED A FRIEND JUST KNOW IM HERE REALLY IN TIMES LIKE THIS THAT'S WHAT A PERSON NEEDS... GOOD LUCK:)

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Answer 2

You are going through a lot. It is hard when someone close to you is very ill. Find people who you trust that it is okay to cry and talk about your feelings. Everyone needs to support each other during this time. It is a rough time and will go on for a while.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about this. I hope it's not too advanced. I've been reading the book A Cancer Battle Plan by Anne and Dave Frahm. It says on page 40 - "It's a fact that 75 percent of the people been calling me since we've launched our HealthQuarters organization are the ones for whom cancer has recurred. Thinking they'd conquered their disease through surgery, radiation, and/or chemotherapy, they're stunned and upset by the fact that not only has it returned, but it's spread to new areas of their bodies.

Surgery, radiation and chemotherapy - although considered standard procedures for modern-day cancer treatment - do nothing to restore the body's own protective organs and functions in order to keep cancer from returning. They may work to retard the original growth of cancer, or even send it into remission, but they do nothing to remedy its systemic causes. Of these three, none works to cleanse the colon and detoxify the liver. Radiation and chemotherapy actually add to the problem of toxic overload. None works to strengthen the body's immune system. Radiation and surgery are well known to weaken it, chemotherapy is notorious for devastating it."

Your dealing with a relapse because they didn't fix the cause of the problem, they only addressed the symptom - the cancer. The book says on page 43 - "a very aggressive process needs to be undertaken to reverse the chronic degeneration of the body of which cancer is but a symptom. It all comes down to changing the body's toxic chemistry through the metabolic process of detoxification and diet - and the sooner the better."

And page 40 says - "treatments aimed only at killing cancer cells or removing existing tumors treat the symptoms of a malfunctioning body, not the body itself." And later on the same page, "Dr. Patrick Quillen observed, "Many people who do have their cancer medically arrested often experience a new onset of cancer later." This is exactly what you are seeing with the relapse. There's a scientific reason - his immune system has been destroyed with the chemo and it allows the cancer cells that newly develop to multiply unchallenged.

Anne Frahm in this book went the surgery and chemo route for a year and half before she educated herself. With late stage advanced breast cancer, it just couldn't get it all. That's when she went the diet and lifestyle change route.

Be aware that the WHO here says 30% of cancers could be avoided with diet alone here - http://www.who.int/dietphysicalactivity/publications/facts/cancer/en/ . Tobacco use is the number one cause for cancer. Don't let anyone tell you that the causes of cancer are not known and that it cannot be reversed. This might be your only shot at this point because cancer deaths in the US are alarmingly high half a million plus. I hope things work out no matter what you choose. But just remember there are alternatives.

Seeing an ND would probably be critical at this stage, as their expertise is diet and immune system optimization. But be aware that Anne says on page 45 - "I had always thought I was eating a good, healthy diet." But this is why the WHO reports 30% of cancer is caused by diet in western socities - when our colons are covered with sludge and we eat what we've been told we develop disease.

T. Colin Campbell in The China Study says cancer and disease starts with three things: breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Dr. Harold Manner said on page 37 and 38, "There is absolutely no doubt that liver dysfunction is a noncomitant phenomen of cancer. (In other words, where there's cancer, it's a sure bet it was preceded by a poorly functioning liver.) As one of the body's chief organs for the elimination and conversion of toxic substances, the livers of cancer patients have become clogged with many of the poisons they were meant to eliminate... Cancer can be reversed and controlled only if we regenerate the liver. Fortunately for us, the liver is the one organ in the body capable of regenerating itself. We must immediately institute a program of purification."

The sites http://www.hacres.com , http://www.annieappleseed.com , http://www.bcaction.org all emphasize a strict vegetarian diet. Good luck in battling this horrible disease! I'd highly recommend the book A Cancer Battle Plan if you like the idea of taking responsibility for your own therapy. Also see Steve F's post here http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20071125082305AAaGUaM and my post here - http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ag8lUeQ2ziH5c5GNs.7SvnXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071130142438AAKYyJl&show=7#profile-info-AA10503846 .

Feel free to email me by clicking my avatar if you want any more information.

Answer 4

You can find peace of mind by making sure that he will be going to heaven when he eventually passes away. I'm not saying that now is his time. You should check out www.WayoftheMasterradio.com. Listen to "Hell's best-kept secret" it is only 40 minutes long and really informing. I guarantee you won't regret it.

Answer 5

PRAY! Now is the time to connect with God. He will help you through this. I turned to him when my brother was killed in 04. I don't know where i'd be without him. Stay strong.

Answer 6

You can start off by praying.......make the most with what time you have with him while you can. Focus on the good times that you guys have had....and cherish them.

Answer 7

well, u shood do wat u can to cheer him up stay with him and talk with him try to do wat he likes to do with him. if he is happy then u will b happy. trust me i hve gone thru a similar thing