I called my friend last night to ask her if she wanted to get together today to go shopping. She told me she was already supposed to go shopping with her mother and would be busy most of the day. I took it that she wanted the alone time with her mom and so made plans for myself and did my own thing. Later today (around 3 or so) she calls me and I was hanging out with this guy I like so I told her that I would call her later. I got home about 6 and called her back. She was real distant and seemed to have really short answers for my questions. She was not the ordinarily happy go lucky person. I asked her what was wrong and she went on to say some stuff about her mom and that she was worried about her and just asked me about my day. As I was explaining where I was she buts in and says she has to go. When I hung up she called right back. I was a bit confused because when I said hello I could hear her talking to her husband on the other end and then she hung up again.
2007-12-01 12:57:36 · 3 answers · asked by SoAZ Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
So I called right back and she answered. This time I asked if everything was ok and she told me it was but she had to keep the line open so couldn't talk. I asked if I could call her on her cell, if that would be better and she just said no that it didn't have a charge. Could my friend just be having a bad day and she just can't talk to me about it or do you think she is sore at me for doing my own thing today and not being available when she called me at around 3 this afternoon? I am trying to be understanding but this is not the first time something like this has happened. If I ask her whats the matter she doesn't open up. It kind of makes me feel like she doesn't trust me or something. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can reach her and find out what seems to be the problem? If its her marriage there isn't a whole lot i can do about that, but if its something I have done...I can fix it. I just don't understand why she would be angry at me for how I am spending my own time.
2007-12-01 13:05:27 · update #1
Its not like I didn't try to invite her to get together. She had other plans. She didn't want to include me on her plans so what is wrong with me making new plans? Anytime she is bored, it seems like I am supposed to be available. But if I am not available she gets like this later. What can I do?
2007-12-01 13:10:18 · update #2
Clearly she's dealing with some kind of problem, but you don't know what, and she seems ambivalent about telling you. I'd advise leaving her alone until tomorrow, at least (unless she calls you again in the meantime), saying a prayer for her if that's your thing, and then calling her just to let her know you're there if she wants to talk or get together.
2007-12-01 13:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by aida 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she does this often, then she is the kind of person who wants other people to give all the time and she just takes. You need to flat out ask her if something is wrong between her and her husband or if she is mad at you because you weren't available for her. She can't expect you to wait around for her just in case you might have the "honor" of her presence. Another explanation is, is that she was talking about her mom and her husband walked in and she didn't want him to hear what she was saying. Whatever her problem is, she needs to better communicate with you. Tell her you aren't a mind reader and that she needs to either tell you up front what is wrong or don't talk at all.
2007-12-01 21:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she probley wanted u to hear what she and her husband was tlkin bout,
somethings wrongg.
2007-12-01 21:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋