I work with a handicapped man. Everytime I go on my break and eat my lunch, he coyly comes to the back of the store 3-4 times as though he's got work to do but usually just wanders aimlessly around me, gawking at me like some dog whenever I take a bite of my food. I purposely catch him looking at me quickly and he looks away like some dumb mutt with its tail between its legs. I've mentionned to my boss that it makes me uncomfortable (because mentionning it to him would be more or less useless.) Why is he doing this? It's disgusting. I have empathy for that kind of people but this is Yahoo! Answers and I'm trying to be as brutally honest as possible.
2007-12-01 12:57:10 · 10 answers · asked by Deloris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it would bugg me to I would probably talk 2 my boss agian. or go eat in my car.
2007-12-01 13:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pursue another line of work. Your comments demonstrate a thorough lack of basic understanding of the population you serve. Other Mental Health para-professionals have successfully employed the practice of having one staff member provide care to the client while another staff member dined in private, and this method has existed for years.It's no shame in admitting you're not cut out for this work or it seemed like a convenient check, because regrettably many people feel this way. But this population is shortchanged enough by society in general...they shouldn't also be shortchanged by their staff. There's easier money for you out there. Go find it. Good luck.
2007-12-01 13:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of handicapped people get drawn to certain people. Either you were very kind to him at one point, or he wants a friend. You have to find a way of dealing with it diplomatically. You can try talking to him or you can completely ignore him. Those are your only two choices.
It isn't his fault and you need to keep that in mind when you are around him.
2007-12-01 13:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time it happens walk right up to him and say "It makes me uncomfortable when you stare at me. Stop it right now." Or, "You have work to do. Don't stare at me while I eat." Don't be loud or abusive but use a very firm tone of voice and look him right in the eye.
If this doesn't work, you may have to alter your lunchtime routine for awhile. (Taking lunch earlier or later.) Eating with your back to him is another good idea.
2007-12-01 13:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh wow.
and walk up to him, and stad in front of him for a few seconds, then say, "stop watching me eat!" then go back and eat again, and if you kept on doing it, i'd be creeped out and move.
and no offense, that was kind of rude when you called him a "dumb mutt"
2007-12-01 13:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by D'Anthony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your co-worker might have a developmental disability and what he is doing might be out of his control. if it bothers you that much try eating in a different location or maybe express to him that is actions or offending you. what type of work do u do? that might play a part in the situation as well.
2007-12-01 13:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike up a conversation and be friendly! Or you can find a new spot to eat your lunch. Just be considerate and polite.
XOXO,
Laurie
2007-12-01 13:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That thing about watching you eating has nothing to do with his phisycal disability.
The guy probably has some food fetish, nothing to do with being handicapped. Just tell him to please stop doing it because it makes you unconfortable.
2007-12-01 13:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly thinks you're hot!
If you don't like it and if it bothers you that much, can't u switch to working w/someone else?
2007-12-01 13:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by :Sheila: 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur kinda mean
bring some extra and offer it to him
2007-12-01 13:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by ..... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋