i like my boyfriend ALOT. But, i feel like i can't trust him sometimes. If one of my friends flirts with him, he def flirts backs. its annoying and all of my friends think i should break up with him. Have any advice?
2007-12-01 12:46:35 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him. tell him that it bothers you.
If he still does it then i say break up with him.
But if you're friends are forcing you to break up with him and they know you like him there not really good friends now are they? :)
2007-12-01 12:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to feel like you can trust your partner, and if he won't respect the fact that you want that from him, then he doesn't truly care enough about you to deserve being with you. I know you probably like him a lot, but think of how much more it would hurt to have him do more than just flirting with one of your friends and having it end for a reason like that. But you might want to try talking to him first. Tell him how you feel and that you want to feel like you can trust him. Don't come across like you're just being overprotective, but at least make him aware of how you feel. That is the only way there is a chance this relationship might work out for you. Otherwise, you might as well get over it now.
2007-12-01 12:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how old you are and what you are looking for. guys, the older they get, the more they need to feel they are still desired by women. some just playfully flirt, like with the women at work, others need to fullfill more than this and take flirting to a level that deservably makes you feel uncomfortable. that is where you may have a problem. their is always some type of sexual tension between men and women. normally this tension just exists without ever being mentioned but if this tension makes you feel uncomfortable or makes you think less of your friend for her flirtations then you need to re-evaluate your arrangement with your boyfriend and possibly look for a more faithful guy. Is he your best friend too? if hes not then live life, date , enjoy who ever and whatever , but wait til you find a guy who is not only a boyfriend but also a best friend. thats the guy you should worry over.
2007-12-01 12:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by g680757w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very important. Has he ever given you a reason for you not to trust him? Sometimes we over exaggerate flirting with maybe... being friendly. If you are not a jealous person and you have that yucky gut feeling that you can't trust him...go with your gut. Also sometimes friends, well not true friends, don't like a guy taking up all their friends time. You know what I mean? Good luck.
2007-12-01 12:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just ask yourself why your friends would be flirting with ur boyfriend? if they want u to break up with him then they must not like him but then it wouldnt make sense on why they are flirting with him. Maybe your friends want ur boyfriend, and that could explain why they want you to break up with him. but in the end its all about u. its really hard to fall out of love with someone and perhaps you should try talking to your boyfriend about how you feel and what you think. Hes your boyfriend and you guys should feel that you can tell him everything...hes suppose to love you no matter what..so i think it would be worth a try.
2007-12-01 12:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, what do you think? You're d only one who knows the answers. Just think about it for now.
Since lack of trust is the major component why a relationship won't last. So, the only thing i can advise u is just observe the situation for now and if he's still continuing that. Well, break up w/ him(if u want.) and besides why stay in a relationship that it's so annoying lol. And if you really love him; no matter how many doubts u have for him.. u 'STILL LOVE' him.
Just do what you think it's GOOD FOR YOURSELF.
2007-12-01 13:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Aya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once told me that the two most important qualities necessary for a long term relationship are trust and respect. At this point, it sounds like you do not trust him and he does not respect you.
Explain how you feel about his flirting and see if it makes a difference. If it makes a difference fine if not you should break up.
2007-12-01 12:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long yall have been dating. If for a while, then you should consider talking about it, and if he doesn't listen then break up. If yall havent been dating that long, you should flirt with other people to teach him something.(dont actually start flirting with ppl so much that you start to like them) Just let him see what you see from him. If it doesnt work, then dump the guy
2007-12-01 12:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a big part of every relationship, if you can't trust him and you're constantly worried about what he is doing it will only make you miserable in the long run. I' m not saying break up with him but maybe talk to him tell him about your distrust issues, let him know that it's putting a strain on you.
2007-12-01 12:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have problem in these relationship because your boyfriend has too many girlfriends(all you friends !!!)If your girlfirends say matters to you in your relationship , then there is no way you could find a good boyfriend . To please one is hard enough and then you bring the whole gang in your relationship , then its bound to fail .
Well , if your friend flirts with your boyfriend , what does it says about your girlfriend. Maybe they want you to break up with him so they have a chance to have him .
You and your boyfriend are the only one in this relationship , what you feel about him matters . Not the whole community .
2007-12-01 12:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.......YOUR friends are out of line for flirting with him. If you feel you cannot trust him, that's a problem. You need to squash that bug early on or it will just cause you to be suspicious all the time which will eventually end up in arguments.
2007-12-01 12:50:36 · answer #11 · answered by M E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋