how can i keep him from cheating?

Question

my bf and i have been together for almost two years. he started a new job a few weeks ago and since then, has been acting kind of different. there's a lot of females where he works. he has cheated on me in the past, but promised he would never do it again. so far, he hasn't and i do trust him. but there's always that little doubt in the back of my mind that he might. he's very open with the fact that a lot of the women he works with hit on him, and he always forgets to mention the fact that he has a girl. and he forbid me from visiting him at work, witch only reenforce my suspicions. i know he loves me, but wtf?? maybe he's cheating? or maybe he wants to keep me a secret or something? im a very attractive girl, and i know he's not embarraced of me. but my gut keeps telling me somethings not right. if i call him (and he actually answers) he keeps it short and to the point and rushes me off the phone. and if i confront him about it, he says he was busy. on break? idk, maybe its just me.

Answer 1

if he did it once he will do it again...let it go girl.

Answer 2

No it's not just you. All those signs are leading to a cheating man. Dont get me wrong he may love you but men always have the kind of mentally of what if? What if I do this? What if I tell her this? You know? But eveything you said makes me beleive that he would be cheating. You can't confront him because whenever you try to get answers from a man all they tend to do is lie or just tell you everything is ok. If I were in your position I would check up on him at his work just to make sure he is there or even talk to some co-workers and ask the girls there questions like how is he? or even like does he hit on girls a lot? But of course you can't say he is your boyfriend. You have to do something about it...two years is a long time. Enough time so that he could be honest with you and tell you what is going on. Since he is not doing any of this you have to do it on your own and see what's happening you can't keep your arms crossed.

Answer 3

Once a cheater, always a cheater! You can't stop him from doing anything. I mean what are you going to do...chain yourself to him? You must either move on, or resign yourself to the fact that he's going to cheat. It doesn't have anything to with if he loves you. Guys can separate love and sex, women not so much. It absolutely sounds fishy to me. I personally would never tolerate being cheated on, I just don't share well! This is a decision that only you can make! If I were you, I' find someone that I could trust! There is no real relationship without trust!!! Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm sorry, but once a cheater, always a cheater. How dare he forbid you from visiting him at work when he has already cheated on you once and you forgave him. If you want to give him a second chance, fine, but of course you're going to have trust issues w/ him. He has to earn your trust. Common logic says that if you suspect something, your fears are probably right, so I would visit him at work unexpectedly and make it very clear who you are. You'll get a vibe from him and the other girls as to whether there is anything going on. You're making it way too easy for him to cheat on you again.

Answer 5

If he's going to cheat theres nothing you can do to stop him :(,

He's cheated in the past so i can understand why you gut has a feeling somethings going on but make sure your not jumping to conclusions from what you've said it deosnt sound great and cheating is a possibility as is being an insensitive guy (sometimes men dont think...), a bit of a jerk etc.

Start to worry if he wont even let you go out on work dos etc, like meals or to the pub or christmas balls or parties.

Give him a picture of yourself to put on his desk (the other girls will get the hint) or meet him outside work if he doesnt like you to go in :)

Answer 6

To answer your question how can you keep your man from cheating; you 100% can't ... only he can out of his love for you...I can see you love him but I do question whether he loves you and at the end of the day if you are 100% percent sure that he loves you with all his heart then you will have to face the truth that he is not monogamus...

in other words he may love you but he enjoys having sex with other people ... so unless you want to be in an open relationship...which means that you both have sex with others either seperately or together you may want to call this relationship over....

or you can sit him down and tell him that there is no need to hide it anymore because you have decided to join him in his lifestyle and that you are going to start making a point of meeting with and sleeping with other men at your work too...should be interesting to see his response to that dont you think?

just remember that you can t ever control what someone does or doesnt do....only they make the decision how they treat you based on their love and caring of you ...best of luck C

Answer 7

My dear Girl , if he cheated before , he will cheat again . There is nothing you could do to prevent these and you don't need to give him a reason for him to cheat and he would . Men don';t need any reason from us women for them to cheat . If they are cheaters they would . Its the hunter in them , some men are still hunting even they have been happily married for like 15 years , it doesn't mean they want to lose you or they don't love you , its that little men in them and biological .

What to do , if your love is that strong to accept him as what he is , then pray hard that he changed his ways and he making the decision that hurting you and losing you is not worth it ,.
If you would not like to live in this shadow and this doubts all the time , then sit him aside and tell him that these secrecy and that this hiding you from the office and office mates make you uncomfortable and unless he could not change these , you would have to dump him and find another one . You are beautiful and not deserve this at all.

Answer 8

sounds horrible...but once a cheater always a cheater. the fact that he forbids you do anything is wroooooong! the fact that he's always busy on his break is probably a good sign that he's having break with a female co-worker that he doesn't want thinking he's tied down...and if he's not being honest about being in a relationship, no matter how pretty you are, he's going to cheat. or has

Answer 9

If you having doubts then why the f are you still with him. In my opinion it ain't a real relationship unless both have trust. Without trust everything just goes wrong. You might be hurt but in the long run you'll know you did the right thing. Drop him girl leave it alone.

Answer 10

find out the nearest pub is from where he works as this is likely to be the loal for that after work drink. Try to be in there on a evening when you know he is going for a after work drink, fake suprise at being there at the same time and introduce yourself to his work mates whilst watching his reaction. Your past experience sould give you a fair idea on whether he is cheating on you

Answer 11

ALWAYS go with your gut. I mean, what's the big secret. You should go up there anyway and park in the parking lot where he can't see you. And see what happens when he gets off. If you see something you don't like, BAM!! GOTCHA!!! Then breakup with him.

But to answer your question, You can't keep him from cheating. He's gonna do it whether you like it or not. Cuz he's gonna do what HE wants to do. Not what YOU want him to do.