Why is it that when I love a woman, I push her away?

Question

My mother died when I was four. Now when ever I try to open up to someone I have trouble. When I'm dating someone, I'm good for a few weeks, but then I feel like there's a weight on my chest, and I'm suffocating. I also feel the urge to tell every girl I'm attracted to that I love them. Then later a break up with them, and act like a complete jackass to them. Can anyone help?

Answer 1

O I could help, but it envolves YOU changing your perception of something, something NOT done easily, I know, man do I know. But it has to do with your perception of love, chances are its the same as everyone else, which is your problem. That ideal of love doesn't work but one-in-a-million, but that doesn't stop people, I digress. The point is unless you know the truth to how love works in your life, your always going to have problems. It works like this:

Love is the most primitive emotion, its job, INSPIRE, ENCOURGE, EXCITE, FEELINGS!!! ALL KINDS OF FEELINGS!!!

Learning how to handle these feelings, use this feelings, and understand them, is the real trick.

In your situation since you havn't came to completely terms enough with your mothers loss to talk about it, puts a brink-wall up against ANYONE that comes into your life. Anytime you feel the connection in feelings between them, and the past history you have, instead of talking about it, you avoid it. This seperates you from the people you love. So you doing this, is natural, because your doing it to yourself. Much more to be said, but love isn't perfect, its only in HOW you love.... I've got an e-mail so if I confused you, e-mail me, what do you have to loss?