I just got out of a long, very bad relationship. It seemto me that every man I meet remind me of my ex.I've only been out single for 9months nowHow can I start to see good in the opposite sex?
2007-12-01 12:22:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-12-01 12:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are happy with yourself and not interested in finding a man they just fall into your lap. You just have to be secure with yourself. You know you wont settle for anything but the best, there is no point getting into another relationship if your gonna end up hurt. I would work out what qualities you want from a partner and if someone doesn't have potencial qualities but u do like then maybe it is best to keep those guys as friends. I think you will find mr right as long as you know what mr right to you is. I hope this makes sence. I wish you all the best, I urge you to out and have fun with friends and all of a sudden he will turn up when you least expect it. Just remember you are worthy of mr right and you will find him, everyone deserves to be happy and if you are a good person you will attact good guys
2007-12-01 20:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by colesuncoast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It often takes awhile before you can see good in others again. After my divorce from my first husband I had that problem too. Everytime I thought I found a good one and thought "maybe he's Mr. Right" he turned out to just be another "Mr. Right Now"
I met my current husband when I least expected it. I wasn't looking, in fact I had just sworn off relationships altogether. But there was something there that I couldn't deny.
Don't rush it. You and Mr. Right will find each other, but it happens on a time scale other than the one you have in mind.
2007-12-01 23:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by Gryph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself, is it really possible to find Mr. Right? From what I have experienced, just about every woman has gone through the dilemma of being hurt by a man that they had fallen in love with. It seems that when we fall in love, our emotions are taken for granted. Once a man knows where your heart is, there is no challenge for him. He knows you are going to be there. The best way to keep a man is to shield your true feelings, yet give enough of yourself to keep him chasing. Once the chase is over, the game is over. So, keep the chase going. There are no perfect relationships. Just about all relationships have good and bad moments. In the beginning we all experience happy, enjoyable, and exciting romantic interludes. It always seems that we have found that "Mr. Right" from the outset. However, there is no Mr. Right. The next man you meet will seem to be the Mr. Right too, just as the last one seemed to be Mr. Right. The best way to deal with the situation is to realize that people change, even though they appear to love you, or perhaps may have loved you in the beginning. Sometimes we do things that turn others off as they get to know us over a period of time. Sometimes they do things to turn us off and we change our feelings about them. That's just how life is. Nothing is promised to anyone in this life. Problems, anxieties, and disappointments all motivates us to succeed to the next level, forcing us to elevate over never-ending obstacles threatening our happiness. If you believe in God, pray to Him and ask for a compatible mate. Although the next man will seem like Mr. Right too, at least you will know there will be indifference and change in the relationship that each of you will learn and grow from. There must be imperfection in relationships, people must get hurt in order to learn, and you will find that Mr. Right is only found when you realize that he don't exist.
2007-12-01 21:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by angela.taylor42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, there's nothing wrong with being single... it only means that you (in the mean time) don't want to make the same mistake again...
but bear in mind that nobody is perfect and you will never be able to find a person who is one... just try to open up your heart once more. it's really hard to forget the past but it would not be easy for you to forget it if you keep on reminding yourself about it...
if it would help, try seeing your ex once again, then put a mental note on what you should be feeling for him. you included here that it was a bad relationship... remind yourself how bad it is... then you would be able to realize that he is worth forgetting....
when you've already move on, you would be able to see good in others...
don't hurry too much, it really takes time to heal...
good luck!! ^_~
2007-12-01 20:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by daena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was part of an awful relationship that went on for 7 years. At the end when I finally escaped I found my now husband just by chance. I tell everyone, when you stop looking and searching for it - what ever IT may be - it will drop right into your lap. Since he's been in my life everything has happened just that way. And it's been great!
2007-12-01 20:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by JeCi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to find Mr. Right. Mr. Right is whomever you fall in love with who treats you right respects your thoughts and ideas. It will probably take time for you to see good in the opposite sex. I mean i would wait a little bit longer before you start dating because right now you don't like me. I mean you have negative thought in your head about them. You haven't moved on from the past so you see the present and future negatively. you will find love again just believe. so my point is there is no Mr. Right no one is perfect and don't waste time in a bad relationship again. Love yourself. Do whatever makes you happy and "Mr. Right" will show up before you even know it.
2007-12-01 20:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by ace7star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll always meet someone who has qualities that'll remind you of your ex, but it's the one guy who makes you not care about those qualities because he brings so much more in the picture.
Give it time, allow yourself to heal. Things will get better and you'll find a man who will treat you right. I promise =)
2007-12-01 20:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by JustALittleBlonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing.. was married 15 years when it was time to start dating again!!! The only thing I can say from personal experience.... DONT COMPARE them to your ex... they are not all the same.. everyone has a fault... you have to learn to over look the little things and see the good.. there are great men out there...took me 4 years to fidn him but i did...
2007-12-01 20:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by kellieanne h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all frd u need to get of that illusion that every guy u meet is like ur ex.that's just ur illusion.u no 1 year ago even i was asking da same question and now what i have my Mr.right i didn't look for him he just came into my life when and how i didn't got to no.so don't look that special guy will itself come remember theres always that someone special made for u just wait patiently .maybe ur that ex. wasn't ur type maybe that's y u had a bad relation.so just wait he himself will come.all da best.may god bless u.............
2007-12-02 09:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by UNKNOWN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of that has to do with the kind of person that attracts you. Girls say that they want someone kind an all that, but when those men come along they reject them and then they go out with a guy that's a jerk. I think it says more about you than it does about them.
2007-12-01 20:32:36 · answer #11 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋