I have last count of how many times girls I know have said the line, "but he's a nice guy!" and then a few months later have said to me, "he's a jerk," The scary thing is that it happens more than once to the same girls. I'm a nice guy, bordering on wimpy. I always tell my friends (girls) to assume that every guy in high school is a jerk. I know that's not true, there are alot of nice guys, but in high school, the chances of finding them are needle in the haystack scenario. They always tell me they have a new boyfriend, if I know him, i tell them what I think about him, if I don't, I tell them to be sure he's a nice guy. They always tell me I'm wrong about him or he truly is a nice guy and that she can see through it and know which guys are nice, but they always end up crying about him being an A-hole after he dumps her for a "hotter" girl. They never admit anything to me and I never pressure them, but it always happens again. Why can't girls fall for guys who are for real?
2007-12-01 11:50:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, part of it is that if a girl likes a guy, she paints this wonderful picture of him and often isn't willing to see the "real him", for fear of shattering her image of him. Also, I think that many girls are quick to call a guy a jerk simply because he broke up with her - there's a lot of hate a person can feel after being dumped, and sometimes it has little to do with the guy himself (I'm not saying this is always the case, though).
Another thing is that sometimes, a girl is told that a guy is a jerk, but she hears it only from people who don't really know the guy. For example, I'm told that my crush is a jerk, but the people who tell me that don't know him at all, and one of the most adamant insisters is a guy who happens to have a crush on me... potentially biased? I'm willing to give the guy a chance, though, because there's still a chance that he's not the ******* people say he is. Naive? Maybe, but not entirely unreasonable.
2007-12-01 11:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by smokeorfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are attracted to "bad boys" (jerks.) They don't respect nice guys. They think they're wimpy and would make good "friends" but not "lovers." They'll get their hearts broken over and over by rotten guys that they think they can change. In the mean time, nice guys are being ignored. Hopefully, in time they'll grow up and realize that what they really want was right there the whole time. In the meantime, try to be a little more arrogant and not so nice and things will improve for you.
2007-12-01 11:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are still young, and these mistakes are par for course. All of the lessons girls learn in high school carry over to make smarter women. Live, and learn. For the most part girls are hopelessly optimistic and take boys at their face value. When they are ready to be serious they will see the not so nice guys for what they are and see the nice guys for what they are worth. Give it time.
2007-12-01 11:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jen N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well b/c the jerk guys always know what to say & we tend to not notice whats right next to us. just stick by your friends even if you have to watch them make bad choices over&over again, not listening to you. someday it WILL pay, it has too. my bf, like 2 or 3 of my friends say hes a jerk but all the others, even ppl we like hardly know say we're perfect for eachother & are happy for me bc they can tell im a whole lot happierr. idkk, the way he makes me feel. he treats me differently then a bunch of other ppl but still, he makes me feel amazinggg. we have like an understanding with eachother? idkk, but ive known him for almost 3 yrs and hes not a bad guyy. soemtimes he can seem that way, yeahh, but hes not. just hang in there & stay by them, because in high school, almost every guy is a jerk b/c they just dont care. notice the "almost"
2007-12-01 11:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It s always hard to judge a guys inside than the looks , so say like it say ...
dont judge a book by its cover ...so you see ...thats exactly same when it comes to love .
Love is hard and finding a guy with a total package could be so hard ...
but if luckly... you could easily find one ...
but there's no great love without the ups and the downs , thats just the world of LOVE .
Hard huh !!
2007-12-01 12:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give up. Why do girls fall for jerks who aren't even pretending?
2007-12-01 12:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is a disease, and stupidity is a symptom of it.
Happens with most people at some time, men and women alike.
2007-12-01 11:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think the question needs to be, "Why can't guys just tell the truth in the first place?" We aren't mind readers.
2007-12-01 11:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont
take a pic of him and the girl hes with and show it to the girl he was with befor and say if u need a bf i will be youre bf
2007-12-01 11:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by arielle a 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they're the devil in disguise and we don't usually realize it in the beginning.
2007-12-01 11:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋