I have a female friend who I had feelings for at one time but she let me know that she only thought of me as a friend. The couple of times that I have been with other women she has gotten jealous. So my question for women are, are there some women who want other guys to admire them but won't date them and get jealous if they are seeing anyone else? This seems like are being selfish if you ask me. It's like they are allowed to have love and happiness and they want you to be alone and miserable. Has this happened to anyone else men or women?
2007-12-01 11:25:51 · 17 answers · asked by Dave 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*sigh*
I hate to say this, but I'm so guilty of this ...
Its this security feeling. I don't want the guy to be miserably at all...but its like..sometimes a girl likes to have a guy admire her, cause she feels special. She feels like...at least she has one guy that thinks shese good looking, and that makes a girl feel better about herself sometimes. So...i don't get mad at the guy, i just get kinda sad...thats basically why for me.
Hope this answers your question.
2007-12-01 11:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rawr!♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happens to me sometimes. Although these days I have do not have any female friends to speak of, nor do I have many male friends anymore. Women like are constantly on a powertrip. american women for the most part, do not realize just how good they have it....I am sure there are exceptions to this rule out there, but for all intents and purposes they are in charge, sadly they have let that power go to far to their heads.
Women also want men to admire them, as they do other women, when it suits them. Women always have an excuse not to date someone...whether its genuine or not. They are always waiting to find the better catch. Your friend is shady and controlling, I would no longer give the benefit of being in control of you, so the next date you go on, and she has a problem with it, just say to her
"Stay out, its my life, you had your chance, now leave me alone on this, I will figure out what to do with my date on my own...if you have a problem with that or with her...Tough. Deal with it, accept it, and move on"
Your friend will realize her own behavior when you have a steady relationship, and she is out in the cold. Let her figure out what do with herself.
2007-12-01 19:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by John L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost seems like she is either confused or not being honest with herself about her true feelings for you. She shouldn't be getting jealous if she's truly not interested in you. I think she really does like you, but honestly isn't worth your time. You need to be happy and I think the only way this will happen is if you focus on finding someone that enhances your life. She is making it more stressful and nobody needs that.
Keep on dating and find true love. It can happen :)
2007-12-01 19:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by ღyesღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A friend of my husbands was engaged, but she still was enraged with any woman who dated a man she knew. She was very controlling. Her family has been broken in her childhood when her father ran off with his secretary. Apparently any reduction of her standing in the life of a male in her acquaintance was enough to make her attack us as if we were that secretary. She kept trying to build an artificial family out of the males around her and any threat to that got a very violent response out of her. We could not even be around them eventually, it was just too bizarre.
But maybe she just wants to control you because she feels on some level that she might want you, though for now she has someone else or has declined your company.
2007-12-01 19:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilty too...not quite the way you are talking about but I have gotten my nose out of joint over a friends new romance. It has nothing to do with wanting him romantically myself- it's an ego thing. If there were feelings there I want them to stay. We all want the people we care about to have love and happiness but you don't want to become irrelevant to them in the process. Some people express that poorly with jealousy. Not pretty but there it is.
2007-12-01 21:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sarcastibitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy friend of mine goes out with another woman, I get cheesed off because he'll start ignoring me. I mean, I don't expect him to spend as much time with me as he did when he was single, but he'll like, completely forget I exist. That's what I find annoying; maybe your lady friend just hasn't come to terms with her feelings for you yet and is feeling confused, or maybe she's just selfish. You should discuss it with her.
2007-12-01 19:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it has happened to me. She's being a control freak and likes the attention you give her without her having to have a relationship with you. Time for you to blow her off, get on with your life and date whoever makes you happy.
2007-12-01 19:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jaja, yup this happens all the time,, sometimes is because they realise they like u..others like u said there just selfish..is not that they dont want u to be happy, is that, once u get a gf or bf...ur obiously gonna stop talkng to them more givin them more complements...and come on who doesnt like that..huh?? and the other thing is, im pretty sure the girl that u date is not gonna want u to be complementing another girl or talkin to her us much u know!
2007-12-01 19:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by agutieres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very selfish, she wants to control your life. She can't stand to see you happy but won't take the steps to be more than just a friend. Time to clarify the situation. " If you don't want to be with me, let me be with someone else, just let me be me".
2007-12-01 19:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Steven D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I just dumped my best friend for the same thing. I felt like his trophy. He didn't like me with someone else, but would make it clear that "we're just friends." That gets old after awhile.
2007-12-01 19:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋