I have some controlling, nosey , bad in general family members, whats the best way to get rid of them/cut ties while being polite?
One cousin, i stopped returning her calls and answering her emails, its been two years now and she still doesnt get the hint though i have not responded to about 15 messages from her..
I send a x-mas card and birthday cards for her kids but thats it..
So how do i do it politely?
2007-12-01 11:09:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are sending your cousin mixed signals by sending cards to her children. Stop having contact. Your relationship with them will be part of the price you pay for severing ties with their mother. (Don't think she'll ever let you near them if you kick her to the curb, so to speak).
If you want to sever ties, there is no way to do so "politely" without hurting feelings and likely offending other relatives in the process. It is impossible to avoid fallout with family.
If those things won't bother you, you may need to change your email address or at least block the unwanted emails. Also some people need to be told directly that their association is neither needed nor welcomed by you.
People that are nosy, controlling and bad aren't going to be concerned with how "polite" you are when you shut them out of your life.
2007-12-01 11:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way with family members blood or extended. the only real way I have found to cut ties is during a fight. I hv a cousin that tells everything and stirs the pot so to speak, I love her very much but did and do not like her behavior, I was always polite and watched her daughter for her all the time. She started some stuff in the family and sd I sd some stuff, but I did. I clld her on the phone and thank God did not hv to tlk to her but left a mssg and just told her not to call anymore, or come over to my house and I hv not spoke to her in over 6 mnths. Which is a good thing, because there is no stuff being started. It's not always easy but sometimes the direct but polite way is the best way.
2007-12-01 11:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your house, pray all you want. Just don't make the one that doesn't pray feel like an outcast for not participating. You should probably have that person stand next to you, and tell them that even though you know they don't believe, it feels good holding their hand anyway, since you can never have enough opportunities to show how much you love someone. Tell them that they don't have to pray, or even close their eyes or even say a word during the prayer, you just enjoy their company in that old family tradition. You can tell them this personally, so as to not put them in the spotlight. That way, they can tell you how they feel about the whole thing and you can make adjustments from there. Once everyone understands and accepts eachother for who they are and how they feel, I see no reason you can't still have them as a part of the tradition. Use it as a means to show your family solidarity, and let them know that you still consider them part of the group, disbelief and all. I assure you, done properly (with love and understanding, as well as a willingness to listen) you can use this as a means to foster a togetherness that will make even the atheist want to be a part of.
2016-05-27 04:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just it! Be polite. Some people only send Christmas cards, and claim to be very busy.
2007-12-01 11:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop sending cards to her kids too to totally cut off from her. If you keep sending her kids cards, she thinks you are still ok with her.
2007-12-02 03:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to cut ties STOP sending them cards.
2007-12-01 12:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to keep doing what your doing. If she keeps calling, shes rude and not respecting your distance, of course she knows your distancing yourself.
I think if you keep doing it, she will one day back off, dont give in to her and call.
she said her family is controlling, nosy and bad,,, thats why shes distancing herself.
i had the same problem.
these people just call for GOSSIP
2007-12-01 11:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No affiance. but why r u doing this. i mean
any way . you could just say nice things and I don't think it's a good idea to cut a family member.
even if u r polite, they'll feel left out
2007-12-01 11:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
do the same thing to her stick to her that much how much she sticks to u and then soon she'll get bored of u and will distance herself from you..
2007-12-01 17:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont answer phone calls, messages, and eventually they SHOULD get the point, dont bother yourself if they dont..
2007-12-01 11:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋