I want to marry my bloke we have been together for nearly 2 years and are ttc everytime I mention it he acts funny saying he might do it but then he say no!! I don't know if he's planning somrthing for my bday/holiday for a suprise or not! It's driving me crazy!!
2007-12-01 10:02:25 · 19 answers · asked by Babydoll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not forcing him!!
2007-12-01 10:13:52 · update #1
We have talked about what we would like and stuff on our wedding day!
2007-12-01 10:29:33 · update #2
If he wanted to marry you, he'd marry you.
If he wanted to propose, he'd make it pretty obvious (asking what rings you like, shopping around, acting sneaky, etc).
Guys are generally simple creatures.
Good luck
ADD:: why don't you elaborate on what "ttc" is....it might help us to answer your question...
2007-12-01 10:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what 'ttc' stands for, but you obviously adore this guy, and after 2 years want to make a commitment.
You say 'every time you've mention marriage', so that means you've asked him before ? what was his reasons then ? does he change the subject, walk away, or find some other excuse ?
He's either not wanting just yet, the same commitment or he wants to do the proposing, in his own time and on his own terms, I realise it's driving you crazy, but you have a loving, and caring relationship, and being 'together' is special for you right now, so why push for a license ?
You have everything you need right now, and if it's going to happen, the proposal, I mean, it'll happen naturally, and romantically.
He sounds a really nice guy, and if he is planning something special, then you're a very lucky lady, to have him.
Hope whatever is planned, you enjoy, have a great time whether that be for your birthday, or holiday and if it is a proposal.. congratulations in advance..
a friend (female) x
Merry Christmas to you both
2007-12-01 10:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by CARAMAC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if he can't even talk to you about marriage, why in the world are you ttc with this guy? Honestly. Think of the child first. When you become a mother, you get put into second place. The child comes first. Why would you want to force someone to marry you, but try to have their baby?? I am not trying to be mean here. I think you should invest some serious thought into this before you make a huge mistake. Good luck to you.
2007-12-01 10:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave it alone. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed when it doesn't happen. Sometimes if you want something to badly when you get it it's not what you hoped for. I wouldn't be ttc with someone who isn't even sure if he wants to marry me. You should probably let him know that getting married is important to you otherwise a baby should not be on either of your minds. If he doesn't wanna get married you need to find someone else who wants the same things that you want don't get yourself stuck in a situation that you'll never be able to get out of. Good luck!
2007-12-01 11:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by keishound122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is laughing away ttc, he is not ready for the family, yet. Don't every ttc without walking down the aisle with this bloke.
2007-12-02 03:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Naamoku 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For those wondering - TTC = Trying to conceive.
And sweetie, if he's dragging you along refusing to marry you, you really need to think twice about having a baby with this guy. You are in NO position to having children right now. Until he puts a ring on your finger and says "I do" put a rubber on the guy and tell him NO BABIES.
2007-12-01 11:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance acted that way too. Another thing with him is it was ok for him to bring it up but if I did he'd want to leave the subject right away and act really nervous. I'd say that he may be thinking about it BUT just in case he isn't I'd leave it be if I were you and just wait and see what happens because you may be pressuring him too much, even if you don't think you are. Men are very strange and it could be anything really.
2007-12-01 10:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready. He should be in the position that you are in right now. Not the other way around. When a guy says No, it's just that. Take it as that....and let whatever happens be a surprise. Wish you all the best.
2007-12-01 10:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by L L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's either one of two things. He's either not ready for marriage or he's not ready for marriage....with you.
My husband asked me to go ring shopping after only one month of dating. When guys know, they know.
We've been married over 2 years now and together over 4 years.
2007-12-01 13:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm most ppl don't mind just talking about what kind of wedding to have and things like that! I say if he does not step up soon........think about your options!
Although my husband and I did not get married for 5 years! We always wanted to but we had to save for what we wanted and that made it much better!
So waiting is not all that bad either, if you can wait!
2007-12-01 11:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kaytie82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's probably not ready but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying "I don't want to marry you" when you bring it up.
One thing I can tell is that if you give him all the benifts of marriage without the commitment he's never going to have any motivation to actually marry you. No wedding rings, no babies.
2007-12-01 10:07:13 · answer #11 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋