please help whenever my son is naughty i put him on the naughty step but it doesn't affect him. He just sits there happily and sings. Sometimes he asks to be put there and it doesnt prevent him from being naughty at all. What other punishments are there? By the way i don't want to hit my child.
2007-12-01 09:37:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My son is very much the same - he's like a little whirlwind and destroys things in a second! When I put him on the naughty step he laughs, sings, picks at the wallpaper, slides off it... it can go on for hours.
I noticed that he quite enjoyed winding me up - he's 2 years old and has just learnt that it's quite funny to make Mummy mad! I decided to ignore his bad behaviour and praise the good - we had a sticker chart and when his dad came home, he'd check for new stickers and we'd both praise every little good thing he did.
Obviously, when he was naughty I'd tell him so, but calmly and consistently and then move on to something else. Once he was starved of the negative attention - he loved his stickers!
Stick with it though - they can drive you mad at times, but one thing my mum said to me is that when your at the end of your tether and ready to kill the little darling - just remember how much you love them - it calms me down in seconds! Good luck!
2007-12-01 09:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to start using a "punishment fits the crime" mentality. If he throws something, he loses it. If he keeps watching TV when he's been told to turn it off, he loses TV privileges for X amount of time. If he makes a mess at the table, he's done eating until the next meal and must leave the table. You get my drift? That way the consequence is DIRECTLY related to the offense, and he feels it much more than he would sitting and singing.
I can't help you with the naughty step - it doesn't work for me either. I only use time-outs here for calming down, and then we handle the situation however we need to.
2007-12-01 17:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good on you first of all for not smacking. My kids don't have toys in their bedrooms so if they are naughty they go and sit on their beds, then I try to make as much noise downstairs with the others so they know they are missing out on something. It works a treat.
2007-12-01 09:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grrr.... that supernanny really gets on my nerve, with her 'perfect formula' for obedient children... it is not necessary to follow these 'how to be a proper parent' rules, generations of parents have brought up well behaved, happy children simply by using their instincts and the methods that they have learned from their families and friends. Different circumstances need different punishments. If he is throwing a tantrum, ignore it and walk away. If he is destrying something, take it away and calmly put in a high cupboard. If he hits another child, scold him and make him apologise. Just do what ever seems suitable for what he has done, and don't worry about whether that is what you are 'supposed' to do. Your his mother, its your decision.
2007-12-01 09:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just find something that seems to work with him, maybe taking away toys or grounding from TV. They are all different. It works wonders for my daughter (just mention it and she straightens right up) but my son doesn't care, either.
Use any punishment only when really necessary, the more you use anything-the less effective it will be. Concentrate on rewarding the good and keeping them active
2007-12-02 19:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just putting him there change your tone of voice to sound firm and if he's happy just look him in the eye and tell him off. Say he's staying there as a punnishment and what he's doing is wrong.
You could always use a sticker chart and praise him for good work insted of punnishing him for bad?
2007-12-02 05:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because he doesn't see the naughty step as being a consequence of poor behaviour (maybe he is too young to?) He needs to associate the step with the bad behaviour, and think of being sent there as an embarrassment.
Tell him he must not sing there. It is a place to think of his bad behaviour and the consequences of it, and failing to do this will extend his time there.
2007-12-01 09:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Phil McCracken 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My son used to put himself on the step if he thought he had been naughty - even if I didn't.
My daughter is much more determind and I confiscate her favourite toys - she has to earn two ticks on her good behaviour chart to get one back.
2007-12-01 10:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Dee L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know, my little girl sing too on the naughty step, and if i tell her off she just smirks at me! i think what you need to do is take things away when they are naughty, like take away a toy that they would miss or bann them from having sweets. goiod luck.
2007-12-01 09:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Snap.
We gave up with that and what we found works lovely is to put our 3 year old in her room and shut the door - it gives her and us time to calm down and when she comes down she says sorry.
We even do it if we have visitors so she misses out on them.
I don't care if she sits and reads - it's not like she plays with toys when put in her room.
2007-12-01 22:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey-Marie J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋